Life lessons

Goodbye 2022 #YearInReview

I wrapped up my thoughts and reflections for 2022 on Instagram on New Year’s Eve but like every year, I’ve tried to have a reflective post on the blog as well and it feels right to do that again despite this space being pretty quiet in 2022. I started 2022 with the intention to slow down, focus and take things one day at a time. I think I was able to do it for the most part, especially once I left my job. Anyway, here’s my 2022 in a nutshell:

Work in 2022

I started 2022 working 4 days a week at the not-for-profit I was already working for since December 2019. My hope was to be able to gradually build private practice and leave by the end of the year. I was gradually working a couple of evenings in private practice, then half a Wednesday and a Saturday, and somehow, by March, I had about 12 clients on my caseload. It prompted me to reconsider my plans and after going on a short trip to Adelaide, I decided I would resign upon my return. I left my job at the end of April and moved into self-employment full time from the start of May. It hasn’t been easy but it has been a learning curve. Initially, there as a *lot* of anxiety and that isn’t an understatement. Eventually, by July, I decided to embrace anxiety and make it my friend which in turn, helped me manage the ebbs and flow of private practice. By the end of the year though, it’s been going relatively well {my books are still nowhere near full} but I have been enjoying my work, enjoying the clients I see and finding it very fulfilling. I also have my own room that I rent on a monthly basis and that has been absolutely lovely since August. I don’t plan on making it a company and want to continue as a sole-trader but I’m glad I made this jump. I can only hope the upward trend in referrals continues in the new year.

Writing in 2022

The year started off well; I had an essay published in Kindling & Sage. I wrote at least some time during the week and with my friend Hannah to keep us accountable. I submitted two-three short stories but with no luck this year. But then, as I moved into my own business, writing took a bit of a hit as I was devoting most of my time to setting up a good private practice. I hope to devote more time to writing in the new year.

Reading in 2022

It was a good reading year and I read 57 books in total. My top 7 reads for the year were shared here.

Health in 2022

My physical health hasn’t been fantastic in 2022. I learnt that I have migraines; what I thought was sinusitis is in fact, migraine. I keep a headache diary and am on medications as required. Like a lot of people, I fell prey to Covid but fortunately, it wasn’t too bad and it was also when I was still working for the NFP and had sick leave available. In October, I also managed to catch the flu which really sucked. And then, just last week, I managed to pull a muscle in my glutes and consequently, struggled to walk properly, let alone train. My gym routine was relatively consistent but my fitness was nowhere near as good as the year before. My mental health was not too bad except for some intense periods of anxiety related mostly to being self-employed.

Relationships in 2022

2022 has been an interesting year for relationships. On the one hand, I met someone incredible at the start of the year and it has been a wonderful year with him. We share a love for reading, being active {some similar, some different}, sports, the beach, outdoors, craft beers, and music. It has been great getting to know each other and has taken a lot of courage on my part to trust again and allow someone in my life again. He is intelligent, kind, communicative and most importantly, emotionally intelligent. I have found that it does make a difference when you are able to have someone who can listen, validate, empathise, and support you when it matters and is not afraid to talk about the difficult things. I am very grateful for this amazing person in my life. It was also a year I tried to prioritise certain friendships and things were good until I had three close friends relocate in quick succession. I am still processing the losses and while I know I still have their friendship and cherish it, I also worry things will change. Finally, I have also sadly had some changes in other friendships due to their preference to be less social. It’s been hard to come to terms with but it’s something I guess that’s uncommon in life.

Lessons from 2022

My intentions for 2022 helped make ordinary moments feel extraordinary. I lead a simple and small life; 2022 was a number of those small moments that I did over and over again because they were worth it. It was hours at the beach, reading in parks and bars and beaches, going to the gym – again and again and again. It was writing in cafés and bars for part of the year, then not writing much at all. It was short adventures to Adelaide, Jervis Bay and the southern highlands but mostly exploring Sydney & home. It was watching my favourite bands live on stage again, cheering the cricketers all over again. 

2022 was the year of courage. It was leaving my job to become self-employed & dealing with the highs and lows of this adventure. It was trusting to try a relationship again after being burnt many times before. It was facing my demons & knowing my worth & not settling for second best. It was picking myself up after the sadness of friends moving and trying to once again embrace the lonely feeling. 

So thank you, 2022 for being a pretty damn good year. I am extremely grateful for everything and even the lows were needed to appreciate the good times.

See you next year,

Featured image by Brittany

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  • Vinitha
    6 January 2023 at 4:45 am

    You had a fulfilling year, Sanch. I am happy to hear that your private practice is gradually picking up. I am sure you will reach your goals quicker than you expect. Even with all the busyness of starting up a self employment, you managed to read 57 books. That’s incredible.
    Congratulations on your new relationship. 2022 is the year of new beginnings in two significant areas of your life. That’s fantastic. I wish you all the very best to your future, Sanch.
    Friends moving away is something I had difficulty processing. I still miss my friends who were so dear to me when I first came to the US. We keep in touch. But to make new friendships like that again from scratch is a difficult task.
    I like reading your blog, Sanch. Yours is one of the few blogs that had survived the recent disappearance act from the blogging world. I appreciate that you exist. I hope you know that.

  • Shilpa Gupte
    9 January 2023 at 12:54 am

    Hey Sanch,
    Congratulations on starting your own practice. Although being self-employed can feel scary initially, I am sure you will succeed brilliantly! You are a strong, courageous girl and it will help you keep going on your chosen path. Congrats on getting published, too. That feels amazing, right?
    Congrats on meeting someone special. I am really happy for you.
    I hope 2023 sees you fulfilling all of your dreams, and yes, gaining back your physical strength.
    How are your cats? Give them my love. Hey, in 2021 I moved house, and my new neighbour has more than 25 cats! Can you believe it? I keep hearing their conversations with their cats all day, which is entertaining. 🙂
    Will visit you again soon. Subscribing to your blog so that I don’t miss any of your posts from now on.