Life lessons

Take a moment

take a moment

Before you scream for mass lockdowns, take a moment to think about those who will have to close down businesses, lose their jobs, their livelihoods and consequently, the roofs over their heads, shelter and food.

Before you post ‘stay the fuck home’, take a moment to think about those for whom home is not a haven but a place where they are abused, witness violence, and fear for their lives.

Before you say to ‘self-isolate and stay indoors,’ take a moment to think about those for whom isolation is actually that – complete and utter disconnection, loneliness, and being all alone.

Before you hoard your trolley with toilet paper, milk, frozen vegetables and meat, take a moment to think about those who live paycheque by paycheque, week to week.

Before you complain about working from home with your partner who annoys you or screaming kids, take a moment to think about those who have lost their jobs because they can’t work as a bartender or a waitress or a barista from home.

Before you spout platitudes about this being time to connect with family and slow down, take a moment for those who live alone, without families, and have no one to connect with in-person anymore.

Before you roll your eyes at gym-goers and exercise ‘junkies’, take a moment to reflect on your good fortune that you don’t need that for your own mental wellbeing.

Before you go out partying in groups, take a moment to think about the doctors and nurses with no time to themselves while doing the best job they can.

Before brandishing all young people as selfish, take a moment to realise a lot of them will lose their jobs and homes over this.

Before thinking you’re not around anyone elderly or high-risk, take a moment to realise that you might be in contact with someone else who is.

Before you call for all schools to close, take a moment to think of those for whom school is a safe haven where they get fed, taught and comforted.

Before you rejoice about connecting through video and phone, take a moment for those who have not experienced the hug of a friend in a long time, or those who have no internet.

Before you lecture others about all the deaths because of a virus, take a moment to think about those who will likely take their own lives because of loneliness, job losses, losing their homes or being unable to provide for their families.

Before agonising over a government that appears to prioritise the economy, take a moment to realise, there are people who need that money to survive.

Before you post positive messages about the silver linings in this situation, take a moment to acknowledge the fear, the anger, the grief and the sadness experienced by us all.

Take a moment to realise that this isn’t black-and-white and there are no easy answers.

Take a moment to acknowledge the pain, the grief, the loneliness, the anxiety. Your own and others’.

Then, take a moment to be grateful for your privilege, whatever that might be.

Take a moment and show someone empathy.

Take a moment for yourself. Be kind. To yourself and to others.

Take a moment to realise we are all doing the very best we can. And we’re in this shit together.

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  • Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid
    25 March 2020 at 1:38 pm

    So much to think about this in this post. This virus is really bringing us to our knees not just physically but emotionally and financially too. When I think of this crisis, I don’t just think of me, I think of it as ‘we” and I think we all have to do what we can to a) try and stop the spread of the virus and b) be kind and look out for each other.

    • Sanch @ Sanch Writes
      25 March 2020 at 1:42 pm

      I feel so much for all the small businesses. I reckon as long as I’m healthy and can afford to, I’ll support them. I went and got takeaway Asian salad for lunch from nearby & the couple running the place said it’s been pretty bad lately. It breaks my heart. Obviously if I’m unwell I’ll not venture out at all but until then, I’m trying to do the little bit I can while also feeling like shit

  • Jen Mierisch
    30 March 2020 at 12:52 am

    I nodded all the way through this. Lots of truth here. I sometimes think how different, and worse, all this would be if it had happened before the internet was a thing. Then I remember that many people don’t have internet at home and are in fact experiencing that right now. I think the people screaming “stay the fuck home” dearly wish things could be that simple. But there is always another side to it. Thanks for this thoughtful piece.
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  • Vinitha
    30 March 2020 at 4:25 am

    I am one of those who complain about having no time and space because the house is filled with its occupants at the moment. Husband is working from home and his work timings are getting crazier by day with no difference between weekdays and weekend neither day or night (Friday night his calls stretched till 2:30 am and today, Sunday morning he was awake at 5:30 to join a call – All office calls by the way I am watching and listening with my mighty power 😛 ) Point is I am feeling more lonely at home now than ever before. I talk to people through phone but my husband is my closest friend and I am not getting him to talk freely. Last night I was able to get something out of me. Then I realized how much the current situation is affecting my mental health.
    But I realize that I am still one of the lucky ones. I think about all the waitresses and baristas and others who got affected because of this situation. The restaurants that closed and might never open again due to the financial crisis brought about by Corona and its lockdown.
    I can’t think too much about these things because that is causing me more panic and an unbearable headache. Again I am privileged not to think about the negativities. Then again I am worried if this situation goes on forever my husband’s job might also get affected and what happens then. Honestly, I don’t see a silver line for us humans other than that mother earth is getting some solitude and fresh air during this time.
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