It’s okay to not be okay

It’s okay if you’re barely hanging by a thread
It’s okay if you’re feeling sad or feeling a sense of dread
It’s okay if all you want to do is sleep through the pain
It’s okay if fear and anxiety are part of your day
It’s okay to feel the overwhelm of grief and loss
In these uncertain times, it’s okay to not be okay.

It’s okay to not be creative
It’s okay to not read that book
It’s okay to not learn a new instrument
It’s okay to not learn to cook
It’s okay if you wake up and survive each day
It’s okay in these times, to not be okay

Take some time to acknowledge the feelings
Take a moment to listen to your thoughts
Take some time to re-centre yourself
Take a moment to know that it’s enough

You don’t have to be efficient or productive in the least
You don’t have to be positive or look for silver linings
And despite all of this, there’s one thing you can do
That’s being kind to yourself and others around you

© Sanch V @ Sanch Writes (30 March 2020)

We’re going to have shit days & okay days. Today is my okay day but I’ve had a fair few days where it’s been shit. I’m taking it one day at a time. And that’s probably my only other ‘advice’ to you. One day at a time. If you’re feeling isolated or lonely or sad or anxious, hit me up for a chat. Send me a message here or on Instagram or my Facebook page {I’ve taken a break from Twitter} & we can organise a time outside of my work hours. I mean it. 

Featured image taken by me during a socially-distant/isolating walk on the weekend.

***Linking with Denyse for Life this week***

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  • Vanessa
    30 March 2020 at 5:13 pm

    It’s the up and down unpredictabiltiy that I find tiring right now. Keep trying to remind myself that it’s probably as normal as you can get right now.
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    • Sanch @ Sanch Writes
      30 March 2020 at 5:30 pm

      I hear you! The unpredictability means you’re more likely to be anxious and we know anxiety stays in the body and can be physically and mentally exhausting as a result. And yet, that’s the normal. We are in fight-and-flight mode but not using it up in any way. And that’s our new normal ?

  • Debbie Harris
    30 March 2020 at 9:59 pm

    I agree Sanch, it’s definitely a case of one day at a time and it’s certainly an anxiety inducing time for everyone. Take care of yourself x #lifethisweek
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  • Denise
    31 March 2020 at 1:50 am

    Evenings are the worst for me. I keep busy with projects during the day, and all my friends are messaging because they are going crazy with their younger kids. Mine are grown and I live alone, so when they are all enjoying peace and quiet, I’m ready to talk. I need to figure out a structure for evenings. And thank you for this, it really helps!

    • Sanch @ Sanch Writes
      31 March 2020 at 7:07 am

      I hear you – I live on my own too and while I’m grateful to have a job, not being around people physically is tough! The weekend was interesting and all I wanted to do was sleep through it – almost with the hope that somehow it’ll make time go faster. Sending you much love in this tough time and a reminder I’m around if you’d like to chat

  • Jennifer Jones
    31 March 2020 at 1:17 pm

    Your poem is beautiful. Life’s a bit of a struggle at the moment. But I e day at a time is all we can do really
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  • Simon Falk
    1 April 2020 at 7:53 pm

    I guess that you are having to do a lot more over Zoom, Skype etc now like the rest of us. Just not the same. You are right, life is not easy for anyone currently. It’s definitely OK to take time to adjust.
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  • Denyse
    2 April 2020 at 2:45 pm

    Telling as it IS Sanch is a gift for and to us all. I appreciate it. Life has been up and down for me, but in the past few days actually ‘getting outside’ helped me. I hope you can do that too.

    Thank you for linking up for Life This Week. Next week, the optional prompt is 14/51 Self-Care Stories #2. 6.4.2020 and I hope to see you link up then too. Denyse.
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  • Suger
    3 April 2020 at 9:31 am

    A beautiful, timely reminder. Thank you. 🙂
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