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Lost along the way #FridayReflections

Life doesn’t go to plan. I know that and I accept that. To be honest, I don’t think I’ve had big plans. As organised as I am, I’ve never been the type of person who has thought I need to achieve x when I am twenty or y when I am twenty-five or z when I’m thirty. I had goals, of course.

When I was a teenager, I knew one of my goals was to move to Australia. Fortunately, that plan worked out. I knew I wanted a professional career and even though it took a little time to figure it out, I followed through on that plan. I guess at some stage, I did think about having my own place and I did work towards that goal to buy one {even though I don’t own it completely}.

I dreamt about finding love {with someone who looked remarkably like Adam Gilchrist} but never really planned anything around it. I didn’t have goals either. And given that I’ve always been ambivalent about having children, that never entered my mind as part of a life goal or plan. While I didn’t find Adam Gilchrist, I found love a couple of times.

But then I got lost.

I don’t know what happens to me. I can keep jobs and do well professionally. I don’t plan things around that but mostly, they work out. Sure I’ve had my shares of not-so-great jobs but more often than not, it’s been good. Currently, I am loving my work and my colleagues.

But my personal life feels like it’s all over the place.

I continue to miss my unit and the place I used to live. I continue to wonder if I am where I am meant to be in life. I continue to ponder about why I can’t make relationships work. I wonder whether it is me. I wonder about some financial decisions and whether or not they were right. I have all these ideas about things to write but feel lost about where to start when I stare at a page or screen.

It’s like I am at a crossroads but I actually can’t choose a direction because I can’t see where I’m going.

I feel lost.

If you are new to Friday Reflections, here’s what it’s about. It’s the end of the week, you’re probably exhausted with work, and all you want to do is sit back, put your feet up, sip on some fancy cocktail or wine, and write away.

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Prompts for 23rd June 2017:
1. National Selfie Day was earlier this week. Share your views on selfies
2. Write about getting lost
3. Share your home decor wishlist
4. “Sometimes waiting is the hardest thing of all.” – Luanne Rice
5. Picture Prompt (credit: Parul from Happiness and Food)

There will be changes coming in July to Friday Reflections and we won’t have a featured writer any longer but hopefully, more flexibility with the prompts.

For now though, link up below:


Featured Image: Pixabay

Until next time,

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  • Ankita
    26 June 2017 at 10:06 pm

    Don’t beat yourself up. We are all lost in one way or another. As for the relationships, making a real connection with a person is always tough. Very rarely people connect in such an eternal way. Rest of us either accept what we get or wait for a real connection before closing the search. I’m assuming you belong to the second category. I’m sure you would be rewarded beautifully for the wait <3
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  • Ankita
    26 June 2017 at 10:06 pm

    Don’t beat yourself up. We are all lost in one way or another. As for the relationships, making a real connection with a person is always tough. Very rarely people connect in such an eternal way. Rest of us either accept what we get or wait for a real connection before closing the search. I’m assuming you belong to the second category. I’m sure you would be rewarded beautifully for the wait <3
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  • Alicia O'Brien
    26 June 2017 at 10:51 pm

    Life is hard. I find it harder to deal with hindsight and the what ifs, and wish I could go back and change some things when I’ve acted foolishly. As long as you keeping taking steps forward, and do the right thing for you, everything will work itself out x
    I didn’t realise you had a Friday linky. Must try to join in, when I can find the time to blog something during the week worth reading 🙂
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  • Alicia O'Brien
    26 June 2017 at 10:51 pm

    Life is hard. I find it harder to deal with hindsight and the what ifs, and wish I could go back and change some things when I’ve acted foolishly. As long as you keeping taking steps forward, and do the right thing for you, everything will work itself out x
    I didn’t realise you had a Friday linky. Must try to join in, when I can find the time to blog something during the week worth reading 🙂
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  • Sunita Saldhana
    27 June 2017 at 1:20 am

    I can relate to this blog post so much. Life has a way to pulling the carpet from under your feet at times. I have found that the best way to deal with this lost feeling is to stop. I take a day or two off life; just listen to music or go for walks. I mentally and emotionally shut down and allow my soul to heal. And after that though the world is still not perfect, I find i can deal with it better.
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  • Sunita Saldhana
    27 June 2017 at 1:20 am

    I can relate to this blog post so much. Life has a way to pulling the carpet from under your feet at times. I have found that the best way to deal with this lost feeling is to stop. I take a day or two off life; just listen to music or go for walks. I mentally and emotionally shut down and allow my soul to heal. And after that though the world is still not perfect, I find i can deal with it better.
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  • Pratikshya
    27 June 2017 at 1:53 am

    I once git emotionally detached and it was very harmful for my being.. my friendships suffered.. i was lost..
    Life would take it’s own time and make things work.. make it happen.. heal and bring in all those connections needed.. do have faith.. 🙂
    I know I can’t feel what you are going through exactly.. but it shall be fine.. have hope.. and you are doing great, even though you have doubts about it currently….

  • Pratikshya
    27 June 2017 at 1:53 am

    I once git emotionally detached and it was very harmful for my being.. my friendships suffered.. i was lost..
    Life would take it’s own time and make things work.. make it happen.. heal and bring in all those connections needed.. do have faith.. 🙂
    I know I can’t feel what you are going through exactly.. but it shall be fine.. have hope.. and you are doing great, even though you have doubts about it currently….

  • The Unknown Journey Ahead
    27 June 2017 at 2:27 am

    I would also encourage you to live life one day at a time. One day. Then another, and another. Find joy in just that one day. All things pass. Eventually, you will find yourself in a better place.
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    • Sanch Writes
      27 June 2017 at 9:07 pm

      Thanks Alana…I know, just need to take each day as it comes 🙂

  • The Unknown Journey Ahead
    27 June 2017 at 2:27 am

    I would also encourage you to live life one day at a time. One day. Then another, and another. Find joy in just that one day. All things pass. Eventually, you will find yourself in a better place.
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    • Sanch Writes
      27 June 2017 at 9:07 pm

      Thanks Alana…I know, just need to take each day as it comes 🙂

  • Ness
    27 June 2017 at 9:13 am

    Mate. You’ve achieved so much. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Relationships are complicated and it’s better to be single than in the wrong one. And if you’re feeling lost with your writing I highly recommend reading Catherine Deveny’s book Use Your Words: A Myth-Busting No-Fear Approach to Writing. I know. Who am I to give anyone advice about writing? So don’t listen to me. But listen to her. She has so much wisdom about writing.

    • Sanch Writes
      27 June 2017 at 9:06 pm

      Lol thanks Ness 🙂 Will look up that book. I agree re the relationship stuff.

  • Ness
    27 June 2017 at 9:13 am

    Mate. You’ve achieved so much. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Relationships are complicated and it’s better to be single than in the wrong one. And if you’re feeling lost with your writing I highly recommend reading Catherine Deveny’s book Use Your Words: A Myth-Busting No-Fear Approach to Writing. I know. Who am I to give anyone advice about writing? So don’t listen to me. But listen to her. She has so much wisdom about writing.

    • Sanch Writes
      27 June 2017 at 9:06 pm

      Lol thanks Ness 🙂 Will look up that book. I agree re the relationship stuff.

  • Ashleigh My Meow
    27 June 2017 at 8:59 pm

    I’m looking forward to our day together. I think you think a lot about things and the past instead of following your curious and thinking about where it will lead. And you are hard on yourself too. Adulting is hard. No one has it worked out.
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    • Sanch Writes
      27 June 2017 at 9:05 pm

      True that re being hard on myself. Reading up about self-compassion and really need to try and practise it! It just feels like everyone has this whole adulting thing worked out. Always thought I was a planner and knew where I was going even though I didn’t have things down to a T. Now it’s like everything is spiralling out of control. Gah!

  • Ashleigh My Meow
    27 June 2017 at 8:59 pm

    I’m looking forward to our day together. I think you think a lot about things and the past instead of following your curious and thinking about where it will lead. And you are hard on yourself too. Adulting is hard. No one has it worked out.
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    • Sanch Writes
      27 June 2017 at 9:05 pm

      True that re being hard on myself. Reading up about self-compassion and really need to try and practise it! It just feels like everyone has this whole adulting thing worked out. Always thought I was a planner and knew where I was going even though I didn’t have things down to a T. Now it’s like everything is spiralling out of control. Gah!