Flourish Inside Out

Fall in love in February #FlourishInsideOut

It’s time today to talk about the positive emotion for February as part of the Flourish Inside Out project. This month’s theme is Love. Yes, I know it’s a cliché but why not?!

What is love?

When we talk about love, the first thing that tends to come to people’s minds is the romantic love. But that’s not all what love is about. In his book on the psychology of emotions, Dr Neel Burton describes the other types of love we experience:

  • Eros: Sexual or passionate love
  • Philia: Friendship or shared goodwill
  • Storge: Familial love such as that between a parent and child
  • Agape: Universal love which we can have for strangers, nature or God
  • Ludus: Playful or uncommitted love
  • Pragma: Practical love founded on respect or duty
  • Philautia: Self-love

The benefits of love

  • Self-love enables us to love others and give more to others
  • Self-love reduces feelings of loneliness and increases a deeper connection with others and the world around
  • Those in loving relationships are more likely to have better health, less stress, reduced risk of depression and anxiety, lower blood pressure and a longer life (Source)
  • Having close emotional connections — friendships or romantic relationships — are associated with better mental health

How do we cultivate love

  • Empathy: It’s important to put ourselves in the other person’s shoes to understand where they may be coming from.
  • Balance the positive and negative: It’s important to have more positive comments or compliments for every negative comment or criticism. I must admit, I’m guilty of being highly critical and find it difficult to remember this. But basically, the ideal praise to criticism ratio for loving relationships is 5 positive comments for every 1 negative comment. Yeah, I fail miserably at this one across all relationships but must make a conscious effort to do so.
  • Consciously: Leading on from the last tip, love can be cultivated by making a conscious and concerted effort. If we are conscious about our words and actions, we are more likely to make changes and be mindful of our relationships.
  • Appreciation: Communicate your appreciation — whether it’s to your child, partner, parent or friend as this will grow the love.
  • Give: Rather than thinking about what you can get from the relationship, think about what you can give. I heard this from a friend and I thought it spoke volumes. I guess if we do spend our lives trying to serve people we love {except in dysfunctional/abusive relationships, of course!}, we are more likely to feel fulfilled.

Join me this month as I spread the love and work on loving my partner, my family, my cats, my friends, nature and most importantly, myself. I will be sharing photos that resonate love for me. You are welcome to join in on this project and use the hashtags #flourishinsideout and #flourishin2017 so I can follow you.

Come back at the end of the month to see my round-up post on the same or add your post too!

How do you cultivate love in your life?

Do share!

***Linking with Deb, Min and Leanne for the Lovin’ Life Linky***

Until next time,

Cheers!!!

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  • Amy @ HandbagMafia
    2 February 2017 at 8:05 am

    February is a good month for it!
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  • Amy @ HandbagMafia
    2 February 2017 at 8:05 am

    February is a good month for it!
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  • Kathy Marris
    2 February 2017 at 10:47 am

    I think you have to start with self love and then the rest falls into place. I have been practising appreciation every day and like to write down something I’m grateful for each day. Empathy is another big one for me as I have been guilty of being judgmental of others in the past. I am trying to show more empathy. Lovely words Sanchie. #TeamLovinLife

  • Kathy Marris
    2 February 2017 at 10:47 am

    I think you have to start with self love and then the rest falls into place. I have been practising appreciation every day and like to write down something I’m grateful for each day. Empathy is another big one for me as I have been guilty of being judgmental of others in the past. I am trying to show more empathy. Lovely words Sanchie. #TeamLovinLife

  • Deborah
    2 February 2017 at 11:57 am

    Ah yes, I ‘love’ the idea of this. In reality it saddens me that I’ve missed out on the romantic love so many experience. (Eros, I guess!) But I’m fortunate I have experienced / been recipient of most of the others!

    #teamlovinlife
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  • Deborah
    2 February 2017 at 11:57 am

    Ah yes, I ‘love’ the idea of this. In reality it saddens me that I’ve missed out on the romantic love so many experience. (Eros, I guess!) But I’m fortunate I have experienced / been recipient of most of the others!

    #teamlovinlife
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  • J.Gi Federizo
    2 February 2017 at 12:49 pm

    That is a great idea. We must always remind ourselves that love is just around and that we must flourish.
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  • J.Gi Federizo
    2 February 2017 at 12:49 pm

    That is a great idea. We must always remind ourselves that love is just around and that we must flourish.
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  • Sydney Shop Girl
    2 February 2017 at 3:11 pm

    Great idea, Sanchie!

    Will join you in celebrating the love I have in my life each day this month!

    SSG xxx

  • Sydney Shop Girl
    2 February 2017 at 3:11 pm

    Great idea, Sanchie!

    Will join you in celebrating the love I have in my life each day this month!

    SSG xxx

  • Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit
    2 February 2017 at 5:41 pm

    I cultivate it by lovin’ life every single day. Does that count?
    #TeamLovinLife

  • Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit
    2 February 2017 at 5:41 pm

    I cultivate it by lovin’ life every single day. Does that count?
    #TeamLovinLife

  • Nikki@Wonderfully Women
    2 February 2017 at 7:51 pm

    Working on self love this month, a priority for this single mumma. xx

  • Nikki@Wonderfully Women
    2 February 2017 at 7:51 pm

    Working on self love this month, a priority for this single mumma. xx

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