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On death and dying #FridayReflections

I don’t always think about dying. At least not my own death. As an anxious person, I have often worried about the death of loved ones, more specifically, my family. I have had nightmares as a child wondering how I’d cope. Now, while I no longer have nightmares, I guess the inevitability of it all is always there in my subconscious. However, my own death? That’s not something I worry about too often. It’s not because I think I won’t die early — after all, who knows, right? It’s just that I tend to think about it in a matter-of-fact way.

Yet, a fear of dying is something that is not uncommon.

When I introspect now about my own inevitable death at some point, I wonder what I fear. Is it the cliché ‘live life to the fullest’ or ‘die without regret’? Is it the fear of not having seen the world and needing to do that? Or is it the pain of death? Or not knowing how and when one will die?

To be honest, I don’t care to travel everywhere in the world — just a few places would do. And what does live life to the fullest even mean? As for the pain, well, I get that will be scary but if you don’t know it for now, it doesn’t really matter.

I guess even though I have to think about the ONE thing that scares me about dying, I can’t help but think of two. Rule-breaker that I am.

If I were to die young, I guess my fear would be not saying a proper goodbye to my loved ones and telling them how much I love them. It’s a good reminder to let my family and friends know as often as possible.

The other fear would be not finishing my writing. I have started so many little projects but not finished any. It hits me that I’d be sad not to know my own stories completely if I were to die. I guess there is something to having regrets after all. It’s the one regret I don’t want to have when my life ends. I guess it’s another reason why I shouldn’t keep procrastinating and write all the things I want to. If only because I want to know how my ideas flesh out and how my stories end.

So tell me, what’s the one thing about dying that scares you?


If you are new to Friday Reflections, here’s what it’s about. It’s the end of the week, you’re probably exhausted with work, and all you want to do is sit back, put your feet up, sip on some fancy cocktail or wine, and write away.

Corinne from Everyday Gyaan and yours truly give you writing prompts and all you have to do is choose any one of those prompts to blog about and link up every Friday. The link will be open till the Monday. After you link up, be sure to spread the love by visiting other bloggers who have linked up too.

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Prompts for this week:
1. I’m most grateful for…
2. What scares you most about dying
3. If I had the courage, I would…
4. “We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” – Maya Angelou. Use this quote in your post or as an inspiration for one.
5. Picture Prompt (credit: Living my Imperfect Life)

We had two featured writers last week as voted by you: Vasantha for five things that irritate her about her love and Vanessa for her story on scaring yourself. You could be our featured writer next week by writing a post on one of the prompts above and linking up down below. Then come back and vote for your favourite post on Monday {preferably not your own!}

Until next time,


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  • Ness
    17 February 2017 at 1:20 pm

    Oh man. I am really scared of dying of cancer. Always have been, so you can imagine how that’s intensified since I’ve had cancer. Unfortunately seen enough cancer deaths to know it’s not pretty…

    I’m sure you will have a long time left on Earth to get all your writing done. I agree about the travel thing – I don’t want to go everywhere! A few places will do.

    Oh, and thanks for the featured writer nod! Do I get cakies?

  • Ashleigh -
    17 February 2017 at 2:35 pm

    Do you know with all my anxieties, it is something I don’t actually think about! I think when you’re gone, you’re gone…and you won’t notice.
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  • The Unknown Journey Ahead
    18 February 2017 at 9:24 am

    The one thing that scares me the most about dying is the pain. I’ve watched two people I’ve been close to die from cancer. The whole process is horrible. I know few people who have died suddenly. Even when unexpected, the process has been extremely painful.

  • Parul Thakur
    19 February 2017 at 1:52 am

    I can relate to you there. Like you said, the fear of death is not uncommon and I suffer from that as well. Loss of life of loved one is not easy and I wonder how will I deal with it.
    Great prompts this week and I will join too.
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    21 February 2017 at 12:15 am

    Like you, my biggest fear is leaving things undone. But I’d also like to add that I fear dying in an accident, which I’m afraid might cause more pain to loved ones… About the life after, I’m so curious too.
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    22 February 2017 at 9:46 pm

    What scares me most about dying is the immediate, physical pain, to be honest. But what worries me always are the people I’m leaving behind. If there aren’t people who’ll be grieving for me, I’m all-okay about leaving this world (just not in a violent way, hopefully).
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    22 February 2017 at 10:16 pm

    Just to add. last June, I mentioned about creating my Not-Really-Bucket-List (that I posted the next time). There, I said this: “Understandably, we all have wishes, goals, ambitions, and I do, too. But I am not going to stress myself to death over them. If it’s my time to die, then so be it. I won’t let the bucket hit me back on the head on my way ‘out’. (I know, I know, that’s not how to say it. It does seem appropriate, ‘no?) I believe that if you get too caught up trying to accomplish everything that’s on the list, you just might forget the other things that should really matter to you. Too many lists I see that are all about ME, ME, ME.”

  • Pratikshya Mishra
    24 February 2017 at 1:34 pm

    I wrote on the similar topic after reading so many blogposts on the same… death and dying are things that haunt us since our teenage… good that you have overcome it…
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