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Pessimistic Me #FridayReflections

For as long as I can remember, I have been a pessimist. Always looking at the glass half empty. Always expecting the worst. I think it comes with being anxious. Or maybe the pessimism makes me more anxious and depressed. Chicken-and-egg, isn’t it? Anyway, while this year, I’m trying to work on my optimism and have certainly become less pessimistic in the last few years, I still wear my pessimistic glasses when I look at a lot of things in the world.

Relationships

Sometimes I think I’m waiting for relationships to go wrong. Not just intimate relationships but even friendships. I blame it on being burnt far too many times. So while I am open to connections and enjoy meeting new people, I’ve noticed that I am almost waiting for a moment when they will let me down or hurt me.

Writing

No matter how optimistic or goal-oriented I am, I invariably think ‘Oh this is shit’ or ‘No one is going to want to publish this’. I rarely ever think something I write will be publishable or an idea will be pitch-worthy.

Future

This may sound bleak but I go through waves about the future. It’s the generalised anxiety in me. I always think of worst-case scenarios and I always worry things will not work out the way I want them to. That could mean finances, health, jobs, life in general. Even though I hope for the best, I worry about expecting the worst.

I’m slowly trying to change the pessimism though. It’s part my aim with Flourish Inside Out. The problem with being a pessimist is that you forget to enjoy the present or when things go well, you are still filled with a sense of foreboding wondering what could go wrong next! So while it’s not easy, it’s a conscious effort to change that mindset.

Are you an optimist or a pessimist?

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1. What is something you are pessimistic about?
2. Write about a real or imagined High school reunion. Did it / your classmates live up to your expectations?
3. What do I do to break routine?
4. “Angels can fly because they take themselves so lightly”. – G K Chesterton. Use this quote in your post or as an inspiration for one.
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  • Maliny Mohan
    20 January 2017 at 12:17 am

    I am a pessimist by birth, I feel. But like you, I have been working on this aspect of my life and I believe I have improved a lot. I hope you conquer it in 2017 🙂
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    • Sanchie @ Living my Imperfect Life
      23 January 2017 at 9:07 pm

      That’s great you’ve improved by working on this…it’s supposed to make a big difference in terms of our wellbeing and resilience!

  • Maliny Mohan
    20 January 2017 at 12:17 am

    I am a pessimist by birth, I feel. But like you, I have been working on this aspect of my life and I believe I have improved a lot. I hope you conquer it in 2017 🙂
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    • Sanchie @ Living my Imperfect Life
      23 January 2017 at 9:07 pm

      That’s great you’ve improved by working on this…it’s supposed to make a big difference in terms of our wellbeing and resilience!

  • Shalini
    20 January 2017 at 9:48 am

    I am not so different myself! 😛
    But I think I am comfortable knowing that I am a pessimist.
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    • Sanchie @ Living my Imperfect Life
      23 January 2017 at 9:10 pm

      Haha…:D Good on you for being comfortable with it. I think I used to be but in the last couple of years after struggling with depression, I’ve realised just how much a pessimistic mindset can maintain that.

  • Shalini
    20 January 2017 at 9:48 am

    I am not so different myself! 😛
    But I think I am comfortable knowing that I am a pessimist.
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    • Sanchie @ Living my Imperfect Life
      23 January 2017 at 9:10 pm

      Haha…:D Good on you for being comfortable with it. I think I used to be but in the last couple of years after struggling with depression, I’ve realised just how much a pessimistic mindset can maintain that.

  • Harini
    20 January 2017 at 3:35 pm

    I am an optimist. For me the glass is always half full :P. I know things can go bad and things aren’t perfect and that’s okay with me.

  • Harini
    20 January 2017 at 3:35 pm

    I am an optimist. For me the glass is always half full :P. I know things can go bad and things aren’t perfect and that’s okay with me.

  • Vinitha
    20 January 2017 at 4:34 pm

    I think I’m an optimist. I try to see positivity in everything. There were some very dark moments in my life which I survived only because of hope and the ability to see the bright side. Sometimes I amaze myself with the positiveness.
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  • Vinitha
    20 January 2017 at 4:34 pm

    I think I’m an optimist. I try to see positivity in everything. There were some very dark moments in my life which I survived only because of hope and the ability to see the bright side. Sometimes I amaze myself with the positiveness.
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  • Sunaina
    21 January 2017 at 10:45 pm

    It is difficult to say whether I am completely an optimist or a pessimist- I guess I am a mix of both – but when negativity strikes, I do try to battle it. And at times I win, at times I lose.

  • Sunaina
    21 January 2017 at 10:45 pm

    It is difficult to say whether I am completely an optimist or a pessimist- I guess I am a mix of both – but when negativity strikes, I do try to battle it. And at times I win, at times I lose.

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  • Sreesha
    23 January 2017 at 6:57 pm

    I am such a pessimist, God! You know what you said about relationships – that *especially* is true in my case. I’m so convinced that things will go wrong, that I go and sabotage everything before it does 😐

  • Sreesha
    23 January 2017 at 6:57 pm

    I am such a pessimist, God! You know what you said about relationships – that *especially* is true in my case. I’m so convinced that things will go wrong, that I go and sabotage everything before it does 😐

  • Rohan Kachalia (@rohank01)
    23 January 2017 at 7:46 pm

    I am probably a mix of both, but when it comes to future, I worry a lot. Just like you said, it takes away the charm of enjoying the present. Now trying to take life as it comes and not worry much about the future.
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  • Rohan Kachalia (@rohank01)
    23 January 2017 at 7:46 pm

    I am probably a mix of both, but when it comes to future, I worry a lot. Just like you said, it takes away the charm of enjoying the present. Now trying to take life as it comes and not worry much about the future.
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