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Why I was disappointed with the Gilmore Girls revival

If you watch Netflix you probably were aware of the Gilmore Girls revival. If I’m not mistaken, trailers began a month before and it was advertised much before that. It’s also the reason why I figured I’d watch the original series first. Back when it first aired, I remember only catching bits and pieces. My sister on the other hand, had devoured it back then. So yeah, in the past couple of months, I caught up on Seasons 1 to 7. I enjoyed most of it but didn’t love the series like I did with FRIENDS or 30 Rock or even The X-Files. But it was light-hearted and a show I could watch while juggling packing and moving and all of that.

I didn’t watch the revival with any expectations. I wasn’t on Team Jess or Dean or Logan. In fact, to be honest, I was never a fan of Logan. To be honest, I wasn’t even a big fan of Lorelai or Rory. I always thought Lorelai was a bit too flaky and Rory was a bit too perfect. What I did like was Lorelai’s relationship with her parents and some of the other characters. But I did appreciate the way the series ended. Rory choosing not to marry Logan and instead pursue her career and life. Lorelai ending her marriage to Christopher, getting back together with Luke and more importantly, being a successful business owner in her own right.

So I guess I watched the revival out of curiosity. The need to know where their lives took them.

Here’s where I warn you about Spoiler Alerts. Look away now if you haven’t watched the revival but want to.

I found the revival ok. Some of it was predictable — Lorelai and Luke together. Some, not so much — Rory having an affair. It was a refreshing change to see Rory face realities and struggle. Actually struggle for a while. The idea of her writing a book was pretty good too. After all, she spent so much time reading, it only makes sense for her to write one too.

But here’s where I had a problem.

The ending.

Why? Because in the end, Lorelai gets married to Luke — someone she’s been in a defacto relationship with for at least a decade — because apparently, according to her mother, that’s what a true partnership is. And in the end, Rory, who is floundering with her career, says she’s pregnant.

So basically, the Gilmore Girls revival thought the best way to portray the Gilmore Girls was have them succumb to societal expectations of what women should or shouldn’t do. Get married. Have babies. And voila! You’ve now made it as a woman.

Rory’s grandmother wants her to stop freelancing and globe-trotting and instead ‘settle down’ at 32 {Which by the way, happens to be my age}. While she may not have done it conventionally, she still follows the thing what women my age are supposed to do — become mothers. Because apparently, if you don’t want to, there must be something deeply wrong with you.

It frustrated me to see a show that seemed reasonably promising amidst all the flakiness resort to a cliched ending. Marriage and babies. Because that’s the only way a woman’s life is whole and fulfilled.

Maybe I analyse things a bit too much. Or maybe I’ve actually caught this for what it is. A subtle message to women of all ages of what true happiness is — marriage and babies.

Did you watch the Gilmore Girls revival on Netflix?

What did you think?

Do share!

***Linking with Denyse for Life this Week and Kylie for IBOT***

Until next time,

Cheers!!!

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  • inthegoodbooksblog
    6 December 2016 at 6:36 am

    I used to watch Gilmore Girls but I wasn’t a major fan, so I haven’t seen the revival, but it was posted all over Facebook!

    • Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life
      6 December 2016 at 11:49 am

      Yeah I’ve not been a major fan either but it was one of those shows I just watched initially to see what the hype was and then just continued

  • inthegoodbooksblog
    6 December 2016 at 6:36 am

    I used to watch Gilmore Girls but I wasn’t a major fan, so I haven’t seen the revival, but it was posted all over Facebook!

    • Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life
      6 December 2016 at 11:49 am

      Yeah I’ve not been a major fan either but it was one of those shows I just watched initially to see what the hype was and then just continued

  • jess
    6 December 2016 at 11:38 am

    I disagree to some extent, I think they were bringing it full circle with Rory falling pregnant to a rich, flaky guy while unprepared (so similar to her mum). I didn’t get the message that having a baby was her happiness. I agree with actually enjoying the struggle and realities that Rory had. I read a great review that pointed out how boring it would have been if everyone was successful and had their life on track!

    • Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life
      6 December 2016 at 11:48 am

      I did get the full circle thing especially as she’s twice her mum’s age when pregnant but I was still meh about it all. I didn’t want them to be successful but even potentially having Lorelai choosing to not get married to Luke but both staying committed to one another would have been good. Or maybe they had to break up. Or maybe Rory’s book doesn’t work out — lots of not-so-perfect endings as options 🙂

  • jess
    6 December 2016 at 11:38 am

    I disagree to some extent, I think they were bringing it full circle with Rory falling pregnant to a rich, flaky guy while unprepared (so similar to her mum). I didn’t get the message that having a baby was her happiness. I agree with actually enjoying the struggle and realities that Rory had. I read a great review that pointed out how boring it would have been if everyone was successful and had their life on track!

    • Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life
      6 December 2016 at 11:48 am

      I did get the full circle thing especially as she’s twice her mum’s age when pregnant but I was still meh about it all. I didn’t want them to be successful but even potentially having Lorelai choosing to not get married to Luke but both staying committed to one another would have been good. Or maybe they had to break up. Or maybe Rory’s book doesn’t work out — lots of not-so-perfect endings as options 🙂

  • Toni @ Finding Myself Young
    6 December 2016 at 12:06 pm

    I watched it when it used to be on tv, but not religiously so I didn’t bother watching the special because I would’ve had to re-watch the entire series and I don’t have time for that. I’ve heard a lot of people complaining about the ending though, so to be honest I’m glad I didn’t bother. It seemed to be super hyped up and then a big disappointment in the end. #teamIBOT
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  • Toni @ Finding Myself Young
    6 December 2016 at 12:06 pm

    I watched it when it used to be on tv, but not religiously so I didn’t bother watching the special because I would’ve had to re-watch the entire series and I don’t have time for that. I’ve heard a lot of people complaining about the ending though, so to be honest I’m glad I didn’t bother. It seemed to be super hyped up and then a big disappointment in the end. #teamIBOT
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  • Denyse
    6 December 2016 at 12:48 pm

    I watched the series a little bit when it was on before and I am afraid I found it too glib. However, I was interested in so many people getting excited about its return and then read their comments. I think you were not the only one disappointed. There are some shows/experiences that we cannot always relate to I guess. Thanks for linking up #lifethisweek. Denyse
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  • Denyse
    6 December 2016 at 12:48 pm

    I watched the series a little bit when it was on before and I am afraid I found it too glib. However, I was interested in so many people getting excited about its return and then read their comments. I think you were not the only one disappointed. There are some shows/experiences that we cannot always relate to I guess. Thanks for linking up #lifethisweek. Denyse
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  • Deborah
    6 December 2016 at 1:40 pm

    I was disappointed in elements of the reunion shows. Not so much the Loralei and Luke getting married thing but the fact they hadn’t seem to have grown during the preceding 10 years they were together.
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  • Deborah
    6 December 2016 at 1:40 pm

    I was disappointed in elements of the reunion shows. Not so much the Loralei and Luke getting married thing but the fact they hadn’t seem to have grown during the preceding 10 years they were together.
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  • Kylie Purtell
    6 December 2016 at 6:02 pm

    I’ve never watched any Gilmore Girls, they annoyed me way too much to get in to it! I did read somewhere that the ending of these new episodes was the ending that the creator originally wanted for the show when it first finished, which I think would have made a big difference when Rory was younger.

  • Kylie Purtell
    6 December 2016 at 6:02 pm

    I’ve never watched any Gilmore Girls, they annoyed me way too much to get in to it! I did read somewhere that the ending of these new episodes was the ending that the creator originally wanted for the show when it first finished, which I think would have made a big difference when Rory was younger.

  • Alicia O'Brien
    6 December 2016 at 9:44 pm

    I never really got into Gilmore Girls the first time round, so the hype went straight over my head. I don’t even have Netflix!
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  • Alicia O'Brien
    6 December 2016 at 9:44 pm

    I never really got into Gilmore Girls the first time round, so the hype went straight over my head. I don’t even have Netflix!
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  • Claire
    6 December 2016 at 10:59 pm

    I used to love that show, I was in college and it was aired in free tv here in the Philippines. Thank you for the review, not gonna watch it. Not interested. I guess the show’s target audience are the lonely housewives, it could brighten up their days I guess…(I hope the housewives don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean to offend anyone)

  • Claire
    6 December 2016 at 10:59 pm

    I used to love that show, I was in college and it was aired in free tv here in the Philippines. Thank you for the review, not gonna watch it. Not interested. I guess the show’s target audience are the lonely housewives, it could brighten up their days I guess…(I hope the housewives don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean to offend anyone)

  • Shilpa Gupte
    7 December 2016 at 6:59 am

    Nope, Sanch. I haven’t watched the programme. I am more a Friends watcher. So, no Gilmore Girls for me.
    But, the whole concept of marriage and babies as the be all and end all of a woman’s life is really not the progressive thinking we need today. I agree with you. So, no, you aren’t over-thinking. <3

  • Shilpa Gupte
    7 December 2016 at 6:59 am

    Nope, Sanch. I haven’t watched the programme. I am more a Friends watcher. So, no Gilmore Girls for me.
    But, the whole concept of marriage and babies as the be all and end all of a woman’s life is really not the progressive thinking we need today. I agree with you. So, no, you aren’t over-thinking. <3

  • J.Gi Federizo
    7 December 2016 at 7:31 pm

    I was aware of the show, but never knew what it was all about, never got to see any episode. Have always wanted to, though, the way I’ve always wanted to watch other shows I keep hearing workmates tattle about, but I never get to see them because I don’t have cable and I don’t have Netflix (my Internet connection sucks anyway).

    “…she still follows the thing what women my age are supposed to do — become mothers. Because apparently, if you don’t want to, there must be something deeply wrong with you…Marriage and babies. Because that’s the only way a woman’s life is whole and fulfilled.”

    This is exactly what I was driving at when I wrote a looooooong thing about single-hood years ago. Maybe I’ll go share it again.
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  • J.Gi Federizo
    7 December 2016 at 7:31 pm

    I was aware of the show, but never knew what it was all about, never got to see any episode. Have always wanted to, though, the way I’ve always wanted to watch other shows I keep hearing workmates tattle about, but I never get to see them because I don’t have cable and I don’t have Netflix (my Internet connection sucks anyway).

    “…she still follows the thing what women my age are supposed to do — become mothers. Because apparently, if you don’t want to, there must be something deeply wrong with you…Marriage and babies. Because that’s the only way a woman’s life is whole and fulfilled.”

    This is exactly what I was driving at when I wrote a looooooong thing about single-hood years ago. Maybe I’ll go share it again.
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  • Debbie D.
    8 December 2016 at 3:52 am

    I was a fan of the original show and watched the Netflix revival. It was a bit surprising that Rory was having an affair with Logan and I didn’t like that she was pregnant at the end, either. Surely she was smart enough to use birth control! (Or, maybe it failed – who knows?) Luke and Lorelei getting married wasn’t a bad thing, IMO. Nice to see they were still in love after so many years. My favourite part was Emily’s transformation; especially that scene where she called “Bullshit” on the DAR. Priceless! 😀 It was also nice to see some of the other old cast members, especially Suki. Personally, I think Rory and Jess are the best match and it was obvious that he was still in love with her. I’m betting there will be a continuation of this series, eventually.
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  • Debbie D.
    8 December 2016 at 3:52 am

    I was a fan of the original show and watched the Netflix revival. It was a bit surprising that Rory was having an affair with Logan and I didn’t like that she was pregnant at the end, either. Surely she was smart enough to use birth control! (Or, maybe it failed – who knows?) Luke and Lorelei getting married wasn’t a bad thing, IMO. Nice to see they were still in love after so many years. My favourite part was Emily’s transformation; especially that scene where she called “Bullshit” on the DAR. Priceless! 😀 It was also nice to see some of the other old cast members, especially Suki. Personally, I think Rory and Jess are the best match and it was obvious that he was still in love with her. I’m betting there will be a continuation of this series, eventually.
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  • Vinitha
    8 December 2016 at 6:27 am

    I loved Gilmore Girls. Watched it many times. Yes, Lorelai is flaky and Rory is a little too perfect. I liked their relationship. But the revival disappointed me. For a perfect girl, Rory was screwing up her life, that’s what I felt. She couldn’ even remember that she has a boyfriend! I mean, that’s a bit too far fetched. And she was cheating too, right? With the guy who proposed and she rejected to pursue her career goals and who is now engaged to another one. It was beyond my acceptance. A perfect character like Rory shouldn’t have gone down like this with cheating and lack of humanity for her boyfriend. And Lorelai, I didn’t like the way she was behaving with her widowed mom. 9 years later the main characters had lost maturity rather than gaining it. That’s not what I expected. And the way it ended it wasn’t acceptable either for me.
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  • Tory
    8 December 2016 at 8:35 pm

    What frustrated me was the lack of forward motion. A year in the life would have worked perfectly as the 8th season 10 years ago but it’s less effective now. It feels like more should have changed in the last 10 years.

    Rory is still privileged as hell and hasn’t learned her lesson about sleeping with men who are already committed to someone else.