All about the mind

Dreams are good. Living is better. #FridayReflections

We spend a lot of time ruminating about the past or worrying about the future. We also spend a great deal of time thinking about how things could be. From a young age, I loved living in a fantasy world. I’d dream about attending boarding school — just like Malory Towers or St. Clare’s. I’d dream about meeting my favourite cricketers both as a teen and as a journalist. In fact, my imagination was so wild, I’d dream about meeting Adam Gilchrist and becoming the love of his life. Yes, even though he was married and had kids.

Some dreams helped me chase goals. Like the dream of living in Australia. It was something I wanted since I was thirteen or fourteen and I made it happen with the help of family and a bit of luck. But there are other times I notice that my dreams remain just that — dreams and fantasies. I wonder how things could be if something I yearn for turns out but rarely do I put any effort in it. At other times, the dreams are there and I know what to do but fear gets in the way of acting.

Take for instance, my dream of writing. Sure, I keep some of it alive by having this blog and a writing blog. But my dream extends to being a published writer — either freelance or fiction. The problem is I’ve been plagued by anxiety that’s so crippling, I haven’t even started to live this dream. A writer writes. A freelance writer pitches. I don’t do either. I have started stories that have gone no where. I have jotted ideas that I’ve done nothing with. It’s all because of a fear I know well enough.

So it’s time for me to stop just dwelling on those dreams and to start living them. I’m going to start by committing to NaNoWriMo next month. I have a brief outline for a YA story but I need to flesh it out more and get to know my characters better before the 1st of November. I’ll start thinking about the freelancing from December and commence pitching in the new year. I think that sounds reasonable and not too daunting.

What dreams do you dwell on that you forget to live?

Do share!

Living my Imperfect Life

If you are new to Friday Reflections, here’s what it’s about. It’s the end of the week, you’re probably exhausted with work, and all you want to do is sit back, put your feet up, sip on some fancy cocktail or wine, and write away.

Write Tribe and yours truly give you writing prompts and all you have to do is choose any one of those prompts to blog about and link up every Friday. The link will be open till the Monday. After you link up, be sure to spread the love by visiting other bloggers who have linked up too.

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Prompts for this week:

1. Worst travel experience ever
2. If you ran the country, what would you do?
3. 21 random facts about me
4. “It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live.” – J K Rowling, Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone. Use this quote in your post or as an inspiration for one.
5. Picture Prompt (courtesy Living my Imperfect Life)


Our featured writer last week was Sunaina who shared one amazing thing with us. I’m back this week ready to engage and read your lovely posts. So get writing and link up below! You could be our next featured writer!

Until next time,



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  • Esha M Dutta
    21 October 2016 at 1:56 am

    I’ve had so many dreams Sanch and even if some of them are impossible to achieve, but dream I do, nonetheless! I do think that dreams fuel us and add colour to our boring lives. I’d perish without them, won’t you? I wish all your dreams come true just as you’d like them to be. With those deadlines set, you’re already on your way to building a proper base to give shape to your dreams. Good luck ahead!! 🙂

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  • Paula, The Geeky Shopaholic
    21 October 2016 at 5:55 am

    I feel like I could’ve written this! I was the same way about dreaming when I was a kid. And I still dream of being a published writer! I’ve been thinking about starting freelancing next year. The idea of which scares me! But it’s time to actually chase my dream! Good luck with NaNoWriMo!
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  • Nabanita Dhar
    21 October 2016 at 3:17 pm

    I feel like this was written by me, partially. I too have that dream of being a published writer, have a few ideas still there is nothing that I do about it. Maybe I should try NaNoWriMo too but I just don’t see how I can do it now with no time. Sigh. Anyways, enough about me. All the best to you, Sanch and I know you will overcome your fear because you, woman, are very brave and that will see you through 🙂
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  • Vasantha Vivek
    21 October 2016 at 7:45 pm

    Dream …. Dream ….. Dream Big …. Dream Often ….. Inspiring post, Sanch !!!
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  • Bellybytes
    21 October 2016 at 8:50 pm

    We all dream and have many of them unfulfilled
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  • Ness
    21 October 2016 at 8:51 pm

    Yes always a dreamer and not a doer. Well, I did actually have a go at NaNoWriMo last year and I only got half way before all my cancer bullshit started. I mainly did it to get into a habit of writing everyday, my idea was too flimsy for a novel. But I did learn a lot. Mostly that I don’t think I’ll ever be a novelist! It’s great that you’re doing it and moving forward to live your dreams. You’ll rock it. Good luck!
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  • Vinitha
    22 October 2016 at 7:37 am

    Great to see you taking action to fulfill your dreams, Sanch! My biggest dream was to find a good job and earn and be independent. Haven’t been doing that for the past 9 years. But I haven’t given up on my dream, not yet anyway. Another is to be a writer and write lots and lots of poems. One day, I will achieve, maybe or pursuing these dreams I shall live!
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  • Ramya
    22 October 2016 at 9:18 am

    I wish you all the best for your stories and publication. I dreamed of becoming a doctor and due to some circumstances I couldn’t. As of now, my only dream is to travel around the world:-)
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  • Sarah @sarahdipity
    22 October 2016 at 5:51 pm

    Good on you! I’ve signed up for NaNoWriMo too for the very first time. Here’s to overcoming fears!

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  • Tina Basu
    22 October 2016 at 11:03 pm

    I dreamt of being a lot of things actually. I have had 3 anthologies too, but I guess I have a dream of being a novelist as well – i dont know how to manage the time now that I have an energetic toddler! All the best to you Sanch.
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  • Betty Louise Davenport
    23 October 2016 at 2:02 am

    Good Luck with your writing career.
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  • Sunaina
    23 October 2016 at 11:56 am

    As far as the writing part goes Sanch, I can see myself there. It is good that you are able to sort out what you have done, what you intend to do and haven’t yet thought how to go about doing that. Not many can do that. Maybe the place of your dreams, Australia, will help you go one step closer to the realization of the other dreams. Wish you all the best for that. And thanks for featuring my post.

  • Deepa
    24 October 2016 at 12:27 am

    I love dreaming as I strongly believe that only if you dream you can do it ..Some of my dreams got fulfilled but some are still in pipeline 🙂
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  • Maria
    24 October 2016 at 6:30 pm

    There is a difference between dreaming and reality. I gave up things I should not and that has made me less of a better person. For example, I had no inclination to learn cycling when young, now I feel I would have been a different person if I did cycling coz it would have given me a outdoor activity to do and fr that while I am independent and on my own suitable to that young age. I dreamt of someone, it broke when we fought real nasty, that person with me is never a pleasant reality which it was earlier. I too love writing atleast have passion for it, I write less but these days I make time for little writing and am known to be(: and would love meeting him and talking to him, not a dream but I would like it and won’t mind it.
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  • Suzy
    24 October 2016 at 8:27 pm

    If you dwell long enough on your dreams, they will come true. The trick is not to stress about it. Wishing you all dreams come true.
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  • Sunita Saldhana
    25 October 2016 at 2:43 am

    I signed up for Nanorimo too! Scared of course! But what the hell! If not now then when? Time to go after our dreams no?
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  • Corinne Rodrigues
    25 October 2016 at 1:34 pm

    You’re really brave, Sanch. More power to you and your writing.

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