Dear 22-year-old Sanch,
I feel old writing to you even though I’m just a decade older. Having said that, the last ten years have made me a whole lot wiser in some regards. In some ways, I do envy you, 22-year-old Sanch. You are still reasonably naïve. Still basking in the fresh glory of having left India the year before. While I understand some things have been tough such as worrying about visa changes to the permanent residency, and all the problems around being a resident assistant on campus, the rest of your life in Australia has been pretty okay so far. You’re working hard which has always been a strength.
Since I am after all, ten years wiser, I’d like to give you some words of advice.
- When in a relationship, work hard on your own identity; you are young and you don’t need to have an enmeshed identity no matter how anxious and paranoid the other person is.
- Once you’ve broken up, stay broken up. I know it’s easier said than done but you will survive. Grieve and then start to explore new activities and hobbies.
- Leave that first boyfriend of yours sooner. Honestly, it’s not worth it. Then again, I guess you’ll learn from it.
- Nothing is certain and when you are highly anxious, it’s okay. Keep doing things in spite of your anxiety.
- You’ll make one stupid decision professionally. While I’d like to tell you to not take up that job, it still is a way to learn what you don’t want to do. Plus, you will meet some awesome people in that job.
- You will be hurt by friends. It’s okay. Do let them know however, they have hurt you. It may not change anything but you’ll feel better for it.
- You will have a harrowing eighteen months being depressed. You managed to avoid it back in India but this time, it will hit you. Hard. You will crumble and break but remember, you will find your light again. In a weird way, it gives you really good insight into what clients experience.
- You will start writing again. A lot. A word of advice: don’t let the fear get to you and make sure you pitch to magazines and journals early on.
- Some of your most awesome connections will be made online.
- Relationships are not easy. You may think you are destined to be alone and maybe there’s an element of truth to that but trust me, it’s still not a bad place to be.
- Channel your passion about issues in a way that doesn’t necessarily seem angry. People switch off if you are angry or antagonistic.
- Laugh more. You really need to see the humour in things.
- Take risks. You’ll feel highly anxious while doing so but remember, it’s normal when it’s something new and unknown.
- Make the effort to maintain your connections. Call, meet up, send messages. It’s all worthwhile.
- It’s okay to not be perfect. Embrace your imperfections — your looks, your neuroses, your quirks.
- As analytical and logical as you like to be, sometimes, listen to your gut. It’s not always lying.
- Remain authentic. Adolescents love you for it and so do some employers. But mostly, the adolescents.
And finally, a bonus peek into the future — you will get some awesome tattoos and you will want more. Your 29th and 30th years will be the best ever. But of course, if you do take my advice and leave that boyfriend, who knows what will happen?
Your 32-year-old self
What would you write in a letter to yourself a decade ago?
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1. Write a letter to yourself a decade ago.
2. Use the lyrics of your favourite song as the basis of a short story or a post
3. If you were to choose someone to be Prime Minister or President (depending on your country), who would that be?
4. “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” – Albert Einstein. Use this quote within your prompt or as an inspiration for one
5. Picture Prompt (copyright Living my Imperfect Life)
We couldn’t choose between our two favourite Featured writers for last week so we decided it needed to be shared. Drum roll, please! Our featured writers were Ericka for her thoughts on quitting and Vanessa for warning us to be careful what we wish for! Go on and give them some love.
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Until next time,