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17 words of wisdom for my 22-year-old self #FridayReflections

Dear 22-year-old Sanch,

I feel old writing to you even though I’m just a decade older. Having said that, the last ten years have made me a whole lot wiser in some regards. In some ways, I do envy you, 22-year-old Sanch. You are still reasonably naïve. Still basking in the fresh glory of having left India the year before. While I understand some things have been tough such as worrying about visa changes to the permanent residency, and all the problems around being a resident assistant on campus, the rest of your life in Australia has been pretty okay so far. You’re working hard which has always been a strength.

Since I am after all, ten years wiser, I’d like to give you some words of advice.

  1. When in a relationship, work hard on your own identity; you are young and you don’t need to have an enmeshed identity no matter how anxious and paranoid the other person is.
  2. Once you’ve broken up, stay broken up. I know it’s easier said than done but you will survive. Grieve and then start to explore new activities and hobbies.
  3. Leave that first boyfriend of yours sooner. Honestly, it’s not worth it. Then again, I guess you’ll learn from it.
  4. Nothing is certain and when you are highly anxious, it’s okay. Keep doing things in spite of your anxiety.
  5. You’ll make one stupid decision professionally. While I’d like to tell you to not take up that job, it still is a way to learn what you don’t want to do. Plus, you will meet some awesome people in that job.
  6. You will be hurt by friends. It’s okay. Do let them know however, they have hurt you. It may not change anything but you’ll feel better for it.
  7. You will have a harrowing eighteen months being depressed. You managed to avoid it back in India but this time, it will hit you. Hard. You will crumble and break but remember, you will find your light again. In a weird way, it gives you really good insight into what clients experience.
  8. You will start writing again. A lot. A word of advice: don’t let the fear get to you and make sure you pitch to magazines and journals early on.
  9. Some of your most awesome connections will be made online.
  10. Relationships are not easy. You may think you are destined to be alone and maybe there’s an element of truth to that but trust me, it’s still not a bad place to be.
  11. Channel your passion about issues in a way that doesn’t necessarily seem angry. People switch off if you are angry or antagonistic.
  12. Laugh more. You really need to see the humour in things.
  13. Take risks. You’ll feel highly anxious while doing so but remember, it’s normal when it’s something new and unknown.
  14. Make the effort to maintain your connections. Call, meet up, send messages. It’s all worthwhile.
  15. It’s okay to not be perfect. Embrace your imperfections — your looks, your neuroses, your quirks.
  16. As analytical and logical as you like to be, sometimes, listen to your gut. It’s not always lying.
  17. Remain authentic. Adolescents love you for it and so do some employers. But mostly, the adolescents.

And finally, a bonus peek into the future — you will get some awesome tattoos and you will want more. Your 29th and 30th years will be the best ever. But of course, if you do take my advice and leave that boyfriend, who knows what will happen?

Much love,

Your 32-year-old self

What would you write in a letter to yourself a decade ago?

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Until next time,

Cheers!!!

 

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  • Ness
    16 September 2016 at 9:49 am

    I officially feel ancient! LOL.

    Great advice. Didn’t we all have a boyfriend in our younger years that we should have broken up with sooner?! And number 4: YES! So much wisdom in all these points.

    Thanks for making me a featured writer last week. I’m really chuffed!
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  • Parul Thakur
    16 September 2016 at 11:35 pm

    Loved this one. And gosh I do feel old if I have to write one. But this year, I will let the cat out of the bag and write a letter to my xx-year-old self. Most of these things, I would too tell myself even now. And on #9, thank you 🙂 <3

    Sanch, you are a wonderful writer and I am glad to know you!
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  • Corinne Rodrigues
    17 September 2016 at 1:30 am

    Almost all these could be applied to my life too, Sanch. Sometimes though we choose to learn the hard way. But in the end, if we can be free of regrets, every experience goes to make our life rich and meaningful.
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  • Dashy
    17 September 2016 at 5:04 am

    Haha, this was a nice read. All in all, there isn’t anything that you’d like to change is there? Every experience is a lesson learnt, even the mistakes or embarrassing moments. 🙂

    I don’t really remember much of my eight year old self, so it wouldn’t make sense if I were to write a letter to her. 😛
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  • Suzy
    18 September 2016 at 3:31 pm

    Hindsight is a wonderful thing. If I had to write to my younger self, I think my words of wisdom would be – Life is exactly as it is meant to be, ride the storms with fortitude, enjoy the highs and live each moment in the now.
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  • Sunita Saldhana
    19 September 2016 at 6:43 pm

    “When in a relationship work hard on your own identity and once you’ve broken up stay broken up” I think every one needs to hear that!

  • Bhavya
    19 September 2016 at 8:02 pm

    Hey Sanch,

    What we go through makes us who we are. That said, if we change even one thing about our past, a whole new person would be in the present now. Loved your note to your younger self 🙂

  • Tina Basu
    22 September 2016 at 3:51 am

    LOL, hilarious but very valid points. If I wrote one to myself at that age I would write – don’t fear anything – risks in life are worth it!
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  • Ericka @ A Quiet Girl's Musings...
    23 September 2016 at 8:11 am

    Interesting and insightful words of wisdom! As I was composing my letter to myself, I often wondered – knowing what I know now, would it be better if I actually had an opportunity to warn my younger self of the things to look out for? I don’t know. I guess that’s an answer for another day.
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