If we were having coffee 25 June 2016 #WeekendCoffeeShare

If we were having coffee, I’d first comment on the weather as we made a coffee {or tea or hot chocolate}. It’s been freezing here in Sydney and there has been snow up in the mountains. Being the wuss I am, I am currently wearing a down jacket and not looking forward to getting out of the house for groceries some time today. Sure, it’s sunny but it’s 8 degrees!

If we were having coffee, I’d tell you how exhausting my week has been. I had a presentation yesterday for a staff development day and spent most week working on that. A colleague and I stayed back at work till about 6:30 on Saturday to ensure we had all the information ready to go. When we presented yesterday — twice — we think we did an okay job. At the end of it all, I went out to staff drinks to relax, recuperate and celebrate. I may have had a little too much — 3 glasses of red wine — but it was still lovely!

If we were having coffee, I’d tell you I briefly caught up with my mate A who also did a presentation to some of our staff yesterday. He’s been busy with uni so we haven’t caught up properly for a few months. Yesterday’s brief catch up made me realise again how much I am missing having that kind of connection with people particularly in the workplace.

If we were having coffee, I’d tell you that after an exhausting week, I ended up having a wonderful night yesterday. Over drinks, I really connected with a couple of colleagues. Unfortunately, for one of them, we were having farewell drinks for him. We talked about relationships and learning to let things go. He had some really wise words of wisdom for me and it was very helpful. More importantly, another colleague and I had a good connection. Most of the time we’ve seen each other, it’s been on the bus or short moments at work. But yesterday, we just talked. And talked. And talked. She is reasonably new to Sydney and talked about the isolation and change. I told her of my depression and agreed with the isolation aspect of Sydney. People in Sydney are nice but usually, there isn’t an extension of that niceness. It’s been something I’ve struggled with on and off as an expat and it was something my housemate from the south coast of NSW also noticed. I think it’s why I keep wondering about moving away from Sydney. In any case, this colleague and I exchanged numbers with plans to go hiking or geocoaching soon.

If we were having coffee, I’d tell you that I got all teary after this night and cried on the train and the car and later at home with Mr Imperfect. They weren’t tears of sadness but more of gratitude. I think Mr Imperfect has been aware just how long I’ve been feeling disconnected from the world and was happy to see me being able to reconnect.

If we were having coffee, I’d tell you I’m going to have a reasonably relaxed weekend. Watching some TV {Netflix or the new boxset of Parks and Recreation I bought}, writing and reading will be the priority. I’d also tell you how I’m going to yoga tomorrow afternoon with Ashleigh as part of a fundraiser she’s organised.

If we were having coffee, I obviously would not just be talking about myself. I’d ask you about your week and how you’ve been.

So tell me, how was your week?

Do share!

***Linking with Diana for Weekend Coffee Share and Sammie, Shannon and Karin for The Ultimate Rabbit Hole***

Until next time,



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  • KB Garst
    25 June 2016 at 11:26 am

    Glad to hear you made a connection with one of your co-workers. Geocaching is pretty cool! Have good week!

  • Sid
    25 June 2016 at 12:54 pm

    I really enjoy your ‘IF we were having coffee…’ sessions, Sanch. Love the little connection that it builds with your readers. Looks like you’re starting to enjoy the company of your co-workers. Maybe that’ll help ease those thoughts that you were previously having about the job.
    Parks and recreation is a great choice 🙂

    And since we’re having coffee, I’d tell you about my week. It’s been hectic, but slow. Sounds confusing right? My inlaws are around and I’m just running around like a headless chook making sure they are comfortable. Of course, that and a 4yo at home, makes things trickier. As a result, I haven;t been reading or writing much. But managed to publish a slightly dark piece of fiction last night. So yay, celebrating that win.
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  • Vishal Bheeroo
    25 June 2016 at 4:21 pm

    It’s been a fulfilling week after finishing a humongous project as consultant for the first time. Happy that I worked from home and gave a sense of fulfillment. It’s cold her and got myself a VAT 69 bottle to warm the body from time-to-time. Quite in a happy space. Wine sounds good for the health.
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  • Obsessivemom
    25 June 2016 at 9:54 pm

    Good to hear the positive note in your post Sanch. Talking is so therapeutic. Not just the formal kind of talking but the getting-to-know-eachother kind of talking. Glad you found company. Having people at the workplace you can connect with makes each day so much nicer. My week’s been busy too. But each time I’ve felt low I’ve had friends and family around carrying me off for breakfast or dropping by for tea. So I’m not complaining. I love your coffee shares.

  • Rowena
    25 June 2016 at 10:04 pm

    Hello my friend.
    Can so relate to your thoughts on the cold!!!!!!
    I’m sorry to hear you’re rattling around in Sydney and finding it hard to feel settled. I live just North of Sydney and have been thinking of organising a Bloggers Bash like the one recently held in London. At the same time, I am cautious about meeting people in real time. but it’s something to think about.
    I moved out of Sydney 15 years ago when we bought our first home but my hiusband works in Sydney and I get down there fairly often. It’s one of those things where you can meet one person and a whole new world can open up but it gets harder later in life and it seems people everywhere are juggling too much and I’m not sure how many people really value friendship. It’s just madness trying to survive. Things are more relaxed out of Sydney.
    Take care.
    xx Rowena
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  • Cathy Graham
    25 June 2016 at 11:17 pm

    Sorry you’ve felt depressed and isolated in Sydney. Must be hard when you move to another country. Glad you were able to reconnect with colleagues this week and that you had a good presentation.

    My week has been pretty good. Short sweet summer started in Canada and we all are swinging into summer mode. We have to enjoy this short season as winter will rear its ugly head again in six months or so. You think 8 degrees is cold? Ha! Come try one of our winters and you’ll think 8 is balmy! Haha! I always like to tease my friends in Melbourne when they complain about Australian winters being cold. We know what cold is here!
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  • Ericka @ A Quiet Girl's Musings...
    25 June 2016 at 11:31 pm

    I, too, have had moments that you described, moments when i’m so thankful to feel connected after a period of disconnected that I get overly emotional. Enjoy your weekend, or what’s left of it given the time difference. Hope it was restful after the week you had.
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  • Paula
    26 June 2016 at 12:51 am

    If we were having coffee, I’d tell you that I can relate to finding it hard to connect to people in a new town. I moved to my current home about three years ago, and I still have few friends here, at least outside of work. Though I do live only an hour away from my old hometown, so I can visit when I want to. I would also tell you that it’s wonderful that you were able to make these new connections. 🙂
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  • Rosemary
    26 June 2016 at 5:43 am

    Sorry you’re experiencing winter! I felt like our winter was 8 months long. It is summer here now, thank goodness. The feelings of isolation. I have felt that too. Not now, but I can relate from experiences in the past. Talk to your friends all that you can. Good luck and excellent post!

  • Uma
    26 June 2016 at 5:49 am

    It’s such a good feeling to have coffee with you 🙂
    To be honest, I have been a silent reader of your blog since forever. Finally, I decided to speak up. I love the ease of which you write. Making things so simple and relatable. I am also a person who needs human connection so I get the overwhelming feeling when you finally get to speak face to face with other humans on meaningful topics 🙂
    And yeah, if we were having coffee, I would tell you how crazy my week was but was I glad I planned things in advance else it would have been a lot more crazier.

  • Robyna | the mummy and the minx
    26 June 2016 at 7:20 am

    It’s 7 degrees is Brisbane right now. Which is NOT ON. I too miss that connection and relish the flickers of it when they return.

  • Betty Louise Davenport
    26 June 2016 at 8:54 am

    The longer you live there, it will be easy. There are a lot of lonely people with a lot others around. It sounds like the presentation we t okay and your co-worder was helpful. Have a relaxing week end. Good luck for the rest of the week.
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  • Parul
    26 June 2016 at 6:05 pm

    If we were having coffee, I would tell you that I am looking forward to Monday and some work. Being sick and at home for 4 days in a row is making me look forward to tomorrow. I would tell you that a close friend will visit me tomorrow and I am looking forward to meet her. You have a good week, Sanch and I am happy that you are finding people who you can connect with. Hugs!

  • Robin
    26 June 2016 at 10:49 pm

    If we were having coffee, I would tell you that I am envious of your winter weather. I love winter over summer, and enjoy the cold and snow. I try to enjoy all the seasons, but the heat and humidity and biting insects of summer make it difficult. I know what you mean about feeling isolated and wanting to make connections. This is my fourth summer here, and it’s so different from where I used to live. The people are nice enough, but usually don’t go beyond surface nice. So glad you found someone to hang out with. 🙂

  • Kathleen
    26 June 2016 at 11:26 pm

    It’s so nice meeting new friends but finding someone you really click with is priceless.. So nice to hear! I too, cannot get used to winter in June.. 🙂 It will be in the 80s and sunny again today and I’m looking forward to another long motorcycle ride.. Hope you have a great week!
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  • Vanessa
    27 June 2016 at 10:18 am

    Ooh enjoy parks and rec 🙂 I adore the show. I’m freezing today, even inside. Wish I had worn some warmer clothes as I wasn’t expecting to feel cold inside!
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  • James Graham
    27 June 2016 at 2:19 pm

    Mmmmm.. I love having coffee.. In fact I can’t go a day without coffee..
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  • Nabanita
    27 June 2016 at 8:22 pm

    It’s nice to have people at work you can talk to and have a conversation with. Glad to know, you felt a sense of relief.. My week was hectic, with office and the little one. On top of that my dad fell sick and that added to the dullness of the week. And then the douchebag at work made it worse. Looking forward to a better week now..
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