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The truth and other lies #FridayReflections

When I was much younger, I lied a lot. I made up stories and told tall tales. Some were thanks to my imagination, others possibly to get out of trouble a few times. I still remember making up a story when I was probably about 7 years old of having a puppy. I named him, gave details of what he looked like, where he stayed to my friends at school. Until I got caught out. One of the parents happened to talk to my mum and asked about the said puppy, only to receive a blank look and be told there were no pets whatsoever. Whoops!

Another time, I got into trouble from my parents for being caught after I did something to someone and lied about it. I truly cannot remember what it is I did or said but I do remember clearly the trouble I got into. The worst though, was again when I was 7. I stole. A packet of chewing gum that I’d initially asked my parents to buy but which was denied. I nicked it from the store and went back and waited in the car. Not-so-smart me decided to chew the gum there. When my parents finished the shopping and got back into the car, they smelt the strawberry flavour. They were livid. When we got home, I was hit with a wooden ruler on my legs.

And that was the end of my lies.

Well, not entirely, but ever since then, I can’t tell big porkies too well. {Technically, I suppose I didn’t lie well even back then, given that I always got caught!} And if I lie, my face gives me away.

It makes me wonder though, while we are taught about truth and lies, eventually we learn the art of white lies. Or sweetening the truth. I guess we realise that even though it’s good to be honest, it’s even better to not hurt others’ feelings.

In my teenage years, there was a time when I chose to speak the truth to a friend over a white lie. The end result was a falling out. We made up some years later but I’d learnt by then to hold my tongue or at least, attempt to be truthful in a more compassionate manner. I understand the point of white lies. To not hurt someone. To keep the peace. To make someone feel good. To avoid some things. Yet, I wonder sometimes whether it can be read on my face when I’m indulging in these white lies.

There are several times I wish we could all be honest. Tell each other what’s truly on our minds. Annoyed with someone? Let them know. Think I need to lose a few kilos? Be upfront with me. Think someone’s being an arsehole? Tell them! Believe someone is the wrong relationship? Be tactful but let them know. Yet, I know the people receiving this, including me, could potentially get upset.

But isn’t a few moments of being upset worth a lifetime of feeling better by fixing things?

I can’t say for sure.

What are your views on truth and white lies? 

Are you a good liar?

Do share!

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4. “The truth.” Dumbledore sighed. “It is a beautiful and terrible thing, and should therefore be treated with great caution.”— J.K. Rowling (Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone). Use this as an inspiration for your post or within your post.
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  • Vanessa
    10 June 2016 at 8:54 am

    I do get torn on white lies, mostly because when I find out later that someone told a white lie to me, it confirms a feeling that something wasn’t quite right at the time.

    I noticed someone acting a lot more … not rude, but abrupt, arguing on things in ways they wouldn’t normally. Basically being slightly d*ckish. But do you say something? Do you say “hey you’ve been a bit d*cikish, what’s up?” or do you say “You’ve seemed a little different lately, are you ok?” …or is it a mood like we all have?
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  • Zita
    10 June 2016 at 10:55 am

    I agree! I sometimes wish we could be more upfront and honest at times but I think we worry about the risk of the outcomes of our honesty. I’d like to think that if someone was honest with me if I was annoying them or something that I’d be mature enough and open minded enough to accept it, unfortunately we don’t know until it happens sometimes!
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  • Tory
    10 June 2016 at 11:28 am

    ooh tough question! I think the truth is important, but often people hide behind that as a way of hurting others. ‘Don’t hate me, it’s the truth!’ is something you frequently hear in comment sections, like speaking your truth loud for everyone to hear is okay, even if it’s hurtful to others. I think we’re all guilty of little white lies. A good example is Santa/Easter Bunny. Do you go full truth on your kids and rob them of that magic? Or do you tell the little white lie to help them believe?
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  • Leanne
    10 June 2016 at 12:44 pm

    The bible says to “speak the truth in love” and I think that is the key – remembering the other person’s feelings and how your truth will affect them. How important is it and how can you say it in a way that will bring a positive result rather than causing pain. People respond so much more readily to truths given graciously.
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  • Mackenzie Glanville
    10 June 2016 at 3:23 pm

    I don’t really know if I am a good liar, I don’t really lie that much, I think i could be quite good at it if Iw anted to be, but I feel too guilty!!!! I kept some big secrets and lied in my past and it ate me up inside, so I live a truthful life now, well except for some white lies. I chose this prompt to so if you get a chance to read that you will know more about how I feel about lies. Thank you for hosting xx #Fridayreflections
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  • Mithila Menezes @fabulus1710
    11 June 2016 at 2:21 am

    People tend to give themselves away when they lie, and it gets easy to detect when people lie then!
    This quote by Dumbledore is really apt, and I loved your interpretation about it. (This is not a white lie. This is the truth ?)
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  • Parul
    11 June 2016 at 3:14 am

    I am a horrible liar. My face always shows what’s on my mind. I am the first born so I had a bit of protective instinct towards my brother. I spoke the truth but if came to him, I told a different story to not have him hurt. It was always caught but my parents knew I was protecting him. Today, I still can’t tell lies but I can word things differently – sometimes in a way that t doesn’t hurt and I am ok with that approach. Great response to the prompt, Sanch.
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  • pins & ashes
    15 June 2016 at 2:02 pm

    It is better not to lie, because then there is lot of work, so much to keep a check and remember! and somewhere it gets caught. But I love listening to well made and crafted lies, the truth of which I know of, but the person in front of me speaking does not have a clue about my knowledge 🙂
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