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Acts of kindness #FridayReflections

Kindness seems to be a very under-rated value especially in this day and age when we are all so busy and focussed on our individual lives. I guess it’s a problem more common in big cities where people are constantly rushing from one thing to another and have no time to be kind. In fact, it saddens me when people can sometimes be downright mean and nasty towards others.

Recently, I mentioned how I am attempting to incorporate a lot more kindness in my life. By that I mean, I’m trying to be kinder to others. I’ve never been intentionally nasty to people {ok, except maybe to my sister when we were kids!}, but like everyone, I have been caught up in the busy-ness of life much to my own detriment. There is research to show that being kind to others and doing something good for other people actually enhances your own wellbeing. If there ever was a selfish, individualistic reason to be kind, this is it! For me, I’ll admit I’m trying to be kinder also because this year was my turn to be kind to myself. But since I’ve been pretty low for most of this year, it’s been hard to be kind to myself or the rest of the world.

I decided to get out of this funk and be kind to others but also myself.

I’ve been fortunate to be on the receiving end of several acts of kindness. Like the lady who asked to me to come under her umbrella some months ago in the pouring rain when I’d forgotten mine. Or the guy at the petrol station recently asking me how I really was after I gave the stock standard ‘okay’ the first time he asked. Or the lovely saleslady in Katoomba recently who told me the red beanie I was buying would be gorgeous with my red scarf and top that I was already wearing. Or some wonderful friends who call or message out of the blue to check on how my mental health is going.

Then there’s the time when the owner of my gym checked on how I was going as did one of the trainers. Not as a call they do when you’ve missed going there for a while. Rather, they asked me during a class I finally attended in the past couple of weeks and listened to what I had to say. I’ve also received kindness from random strangers. An occasional smile to brighten my day. A compliment like an elderly lady once telling me ‘Yes, you do make the sun shine’ after reading the slogan on a t-shirt I was wearing. A bus driver being jovial and wishing me {and everyone} a good day.

It’s hard to choose one act of kindness that stands above all. They all mean so much in their own way. And while I am still struggling to be kind to myself, I am continuing to try. By exercising. By starting yoga. By setting boundaries at work. By looking after myself.

Until I get to a stage where it comes automatically to me, I just have to rely on these random acts of kindness by others. I’m glad they keep occurring!

Have you been on the receiving end of a random act of kindness? 

Do share!

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Prompts for this week:

  1. A random act of kindness I’ve experienced
  2. Write about two people seeing each other and making eye contact for the first time. It can be fictional or something from experience
  3. I wish I lived in the ______ century
  4. Write a post using this quote as an inspiration or within your post: “…the opposite of love is not hate — it’s apathy. It’s not giving a damn. If somebody hates me, they must “feel” something … or they couldn’t possibly hate. Therefore, there’s some way in which I can get to them.” — Leo Buscaglia
  5. Write a post inspired by the picture provided {Picture source: me}

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Until next time,

Cheers!!!

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  • Amy @ HandbagMafia
    29 April 2016 at 7:37 am

    Kindness is an extremely under-rated quality, I think. I try to be kind because it’s so much easier than being an ass!

    • Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life
      29 April 2016 at 7:40 am

      Hehe…I think for some people, being an ass is easier. But I’m with you…so much nicer to be kind!

  • Amy @ HandbagMafia
    29 April 2016 at 7:37 am

    Kindness is an extremely under-rated quality, I think. I try to be kind because it’s so much easier than being an ass!

    • Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life
      29 April 2016 at 7:40 am

      Hehe…I think for some people, being an ass is easier. But I’m with you…so much nicer to be kind!

  • Tory
    29 April 2016 at 8:34 am

    It sounds sort of silly but I try to say something nice to a stranger once a day. Today I told a lady I thought her blue hair was awesome 🙂 It makes me happy to see how happy it makes them.

    • Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life
      29 April 2016 at 8:35 am

      I’m making myself do something like that too but not just for strangers. I notice I can take loved ones for granted so I’m trying hard there too! I love what you’re doing!! 🙂

  • Tory
    29 April 2016 at 8:34 am

    It sounds sort of silly but I try to say something nice to a stranger once a day. Today I told a lady I thought her blue hair was awesome 🙂 It makes me happy to see how happy it makes them.

    • Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life
      29 April 2016 at 8:35 am

      I’m making myself do something like that too but not just for strangers. I notice I can take loved ones for granted so I’m trying hard there too! I love what you’re doing!! 🙂

  • Deborah
    29 April 2016 at 3:13 pm

    I love the concept of random (little) acts of kindness. I’m bad at asking for favours and hate feeling indebted but lately have had a couple of people do things for me which I’ve really appreciated.

    I do think it’s often the little things that give us pleasure (sharing an umbrella, for eg) and that say something about who ‘we’ are.
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    • Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life
      29 April 2016 at 4:50 pm

      I totally agree with you…and like you, I hate asking for things! I don’t like depending on others. But when people offer, I guess it makes them happy too when we accept and in the end, makes us happy too 🙂

  • Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid
    29 April 2016 at 9:10 pm

    Kindness never goes out of fashion! I think the kinder we are (to ourselves and to others,) the better we feel!
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    • Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life
      30 April 2016 at 7:05 am

      Totally agree with you there…unfortunately, sometimes when I see kids and some adults these days, I do worry that kindness is being pooh-poohed.

  • Corinne Rodrigues
    1 May 2016 at 12:00 pm

    Funny I was struggling a bit too – there are so many RAKs that come my way, that I couldn’t remember them. Time for me to jot them down, methinks. The best kindness one can do is to oneself – how true!

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  • Anamika Agnihotri
    2 May 2016 at 2:37 am

    How true! We are subjected to so many random acts of kindness each day but it takes an aware mind to recognise them amidst the fast pace of life. It felt nice reading your post.
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  • Grace
    2 May 2016 at 10:46 am

    I hear you. As much as I would like to think that being kind to yourself can be a natural thing, I don’t think it is. We can be hard on ourselves for all sorts of things during all different stages of our lives. The most important thing is to be aware when it happens. We are all our own harshest critic but I think we need to be our own biggest cheerleader.
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  • prasannakumary Raghavn
    3 May 2016 at 4:14 pm

    Oh yes kindness makes perfect sense when it’s given and taken; you should be kind to yourself while being kind to others. A great notion 🙂

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    4 May 2016 at 7:14 am

    How true.. there are many random acts of kindness that i faced, which I might have taken for granted. Time to appreciate them and reciprocate. Nice post Sanch
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