All about the mind

The Present Moment

Most of us spend our time regretting things from the past, worrying about the future, or thinking about how things could be. I know I do. My mind is in a constant turmoil of ‘what ifs’ and ‘if onlys’. And you know what? I forget about the present moment, about the here and now.

When I’m driving in the mornings, I’m thinking about the day ahead and what I have in store.When I’m at work, except for the time I’m seeing clients, I am constantly wishing I was at home writing or blogging. When I’m at home, I’m thinking about the next day or just wishing how great life could be if only I had…

Basically, for most of my day, I’m not living in the moment.

 

When I look at my life, there are only few moments when I’m wholly and completely just savouring the moment. Just being present. Like when I am exercising. Or when I am on a writing spurt. Or sometimes when I’m around nature. And funnily enough, when I’m with certain clients. When I exercise, my entire focus is on the exercises I’m meant to be doing and the pain in my body. I’m not wishing I was elsewhere. Similarly when I’m just writing freely there is nothing apart from the content I’m writing and the feel of the keys or pen. When I’m hiking or at the beach, I can certainly savour the moment rather than letting my mind wander constantly. As for clients, especially the ones I like to see, I’m there for them completely without any distractions whatsoever.

All this makes me wonder why I can’t be in the present moment more often.

I’m sure this turmoil plays a part in my current mental state. After all, it can’t be easy to be happy or even content if I’m constantly wishing I was elsewhere. I know I should be practising mindfulness; after all, I teach some of my clients the same thing! I know it helps. But I am also aware that mindful breathing is not easy for me. Rather, it’s easier to be mindful with some activities; something concrete. So I think I’m going to start small.

I’m going to try and be mindful for 5 minutes every hour. It can be mindfully listening to sounds or mindfully doing an activity like driving or washing the dishes or cooking or even just mindfully drinking my coffee as opposed to gulping it down. I may not succeed all the time. But I’m damn well going to try. After all, it’s all these little moments that make up life. Not the what ifs or if onlys. It’s the here and now that I’m living.

Do you live in the present moment? Are you good at mindfulness?

What works for you?

Do share!

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Until next time,

Cheers!!!

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  • Rachna
    24 August 2015 at 2:57 pm

    Yes, mindfulness can be a challenge. I also find my mind wandering at times. These days, I actively train myself to listen within, to hear the birds chirping, to pay attention to the person talking to me. Sometimes, I have to multitask. But at other times, I try to be with that one thing that I am doing.
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  • simple girl
    24 August 2015 at 3:16 pm

    Nope, I am far from being mindful. 🙁

  • Inderpreet Kaur Uppal
    24 August 2015 at 6:03 pm

    Being mindful is tough but we must try, if we put our heart in all that we do, it will be done better. 5 minutes to start with is pretty good.
    I too try to do it as much as I can but trust me distractions are aplenty!!
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  • Natalie @ our parallel connection
    24 August 2015 at 7:21 pm

    It’s very difficult in this day and age to live in the present moment when work calls. I find that when I am relaxing over the weekend, I know how to sit back and live in the moment. Baby steps I say

  • Alicia
    24 August 2015 at 10:17 pm

    I need to be better at being mindful, aiming for five minutes an hour is a good idea.
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  • Shalini
    24 August 2015 at 10:44 pm

    I am the queen of ‘if-only’s’. I’m trying though. But mostly caught up with ‘things’.
    You’ve brought out some important points!
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  • Sunila
    24 August 2015 at 10:51 pm

    Love this post Sanch. The word Mindfulness itself is so beautiful to focus on. I focus on my exhale as I do various things and love the moments where we lose ourselves fully, for eg: at the gym , yoga, looking at nature and so many other things….

    • Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life
      25 August 2015 at 5:24 am

      I agree Sunila…it is a beautiful word. I’m going to see if I can focus on the exhale breath in my attempts

  • Corinne Rodrigues
    24 August 2015 at 11:45 pm

    I try, but it’s not always easy!

    Love the new branding, Sanch. Fantastic. Did your sister have a hand in it?
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  • John Holton
    25 August 2015 at 5:57 am

    I’ve spent far too much of my life (almost six decades) either regretting the past or terrified of the future. I’m going to learn to practice mindfulness myself.
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  • CookieCrumbsInc.
    25 August 2015 at 5:32 pm

    You are so right, Sanch! I’m so worried about what is going to happen in the future that I forget to realize that life is pretty good today, life is great now. I’m going to do the 5 minutes of mindfulness as well. Thanks for the tip.

  • Kaddu
    25 August 2015 at 6:00 pm

    Sighhhh! That’s my current life challenge too… to be more mindful, to live in the present moment.
    Getting there slowly. The shop really helps.
    By the way, I really like visiting your blog now. It feels so warm and sunny! 😀
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  • Aditi
    26 August 2015 at 10:28 am

    If only I could let my mind not wander… It’s difficult to be in the present always but I’m trying too!
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  • Zita
    26 August 2015 at 11:49 am

    I can relate to this so much! Something I definitely need to work on!
    Wonder why it is so hard, sad really…
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  • Nibha
    28 August 2015 at 5:03 pm

    Oh, you are not the only one to do that. We all do that, we hardly live in present. And when the moment passes off, we regret of being ignorant of it!

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