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Feminism Friday: Around the house

Feminism Friday

I thought I’d write about something a bit lighter for this week’s Feminism Friday post. It arose after a few conversations at work which got me thinking: how does gender equality present itself when it comes to tasks around the house?

I grew up in a household where my mum was the homemaker and dad was the breadwinner. But, unlike many Indian families back then, my dad still helped out around the house. He would dust the house {I blame his OCD}, hang out the clothes and iron the clothes {you see, Tony, men DO iron}. Yes, growing up, dad did the ironing. He couldn’t cook and so, the kitchen was mum’s domain. Basically, I grew up watching my dad definitely do stuff around the house. I grew up learning that my partner too would be expected to meet me half way when it came to household chores.

Mr Imperfect and I are still learning the ropes. He needs to be told what to do and will do it. He does the vacuuming {which I hate} while I clean the bathroom and kitchen. He will take the bins out and do half the grocery shopping. I tend to do more of the cooking but that’s only because I am a better cook 😉 He does cook steak or fish or pasta and even made me minestrone soup once from one of my recipes. In short, he helps out. For the record, neither of us really does the ironing.

Some of the ladies at work were complaining about how their husbands need to be told and won’t just try and help out. I have no problems in telling Mr Imperfect what to do because let’s face it, we all have different standards. My dad is a neat freak and I doubt all men can be neat freaks!  But in India, I still remember most of my friends would tell me how their dads never helped out around the house. They’d come home from work and expect dinner on the table, would watch TV and then go to bed. I’d like to think that times have changed and that more men help around the house. But even today, women do most of the housework. And they do this even after going to work.

Here’s an interesting article about how we are trained from the time we are young to help out more around the house. And how’s this for some good news this week. Apparently, companies with women on their boards perform better. Makes you wonder why the corporate world is so male-dominated! Also makes you wonder whether politicians will take a leaf out of this and actually have more women in the cabinet. Or maybe that’s far too advanced for the current government. Parul’s post on leadership was an insightful read and which begs the question as to why there aren’t more female leaders.

What happens in your house with the housework?

Do share!

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***Linking with Grace for FYBF***

Until next time,

Cheers!!!

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  • Eloquent Mind
    24 April 2015 at 7:42 am

    Nice post Sanch! I am happy (or lucky) that hubby shares the housework with me. He is also a good cook which gives me the liberty to throw the ball at him somedays 😀 Ironing ? He does it for his clothes and sometimes mine when I request him. Even when it comes to taking care of the Baby Girl, we split the tasks so we each get to spend equal time with her. 🙂 But yeah, I know what you mean, I have few friends who don’t share their chores and that is kinda unfair.
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  • Eloquent Mind
    24 April 2015 at 7:42 am

    Nice post Sanch! I am happy (or lucky) that hubby shares the housework with me. He is also a good cook which gives me the liberty to throw the ball at him somedays 😀 Ironing ? He does it for his clothes and sometimes mine when I request him. Even when it comes to taking care of the Baby Girl, we split the tasks so we each get to spend equal time with her. 🙂 But yeah, I know what you mean, I have few friends who don’t share their chores and that is kinda unfair.
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  • Amy @ HandbagMafia
    24 April 2015 at 8:45 am

    We very much share the load. I don’t even know where the iron is kept and it’s rarely used anyway!
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  • Amy @ HandbagMafia
    24 April 2015 at 8:45 am

    We very much share the load. I don’t even know where the iron is kept and it’s rarely used anyway!
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  • Parul
    24 April 2015 at 12:40 pm

    Great post S and thank you for the mention.
    VT had never moved a pin while he was growing up. Being with me, he does the laundry – end to end, I fold the clothes and put them back..He also helps me set the table and reheat food. My morning tea is his domain – Read about that here – https://happinessandfood.wordpress.com/2014/05/12/mighty/
    He could have been better but I have no complains. 🙂
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    • Parul
      24 April 2015 at 12:41 pm

      And yes, Ironing his trousers and my stuff is his job!
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  • Parul
    24 April 2015 at 12:40 pm

    Great post S and thank you for the mention.
    VT had never moved a pin while he was growing up. Being with me, he does the laundry – end to end, I fold the clothes and put them back..He also helps me set the table and reheat food. My morning tea is his domain – Read about that here – https://happinessandfood.wordpress.com/2014/05/12/mighty/
    He could have been better but I have no complains. 🙂
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    • Parul
      24 April 2015 at 12:41 pm

      And yes, Ironing his trousers and my stuff is his job!
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  • Sid
    24 April 2015 at 2:39 pm

    Even though the roles are reversed in our household – i.e. the wife being the primary breadwinner, we still divide our chores. Why even our little one does his bit nowadays. So in essence, we all do our share and gives us more time to be happy and with each other. 🙂
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  • Sid
    24 April 2015 at 2:39 pm

    Even though the roles are reversed in our household – i.e. the wife being the primary breadwinner, we still divide our chores. Why even our little one does his bit nowadays. So in essence, we all do our share and gives us more time to be happy and with each other. 🙂
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  • CookieCrumbsInc.
    24 April 2015 at 3:00 pm

    I got lucky that way… Bae (cannot believe I just typed that out) is SUPER helpful around the house. I think it is mostly because of what he has seen growing up (his father helps his mother around the house). But I know a LOT of men who will not lift a finger when their working wives come back home dead tired, cook, clean and put the children to sleep. Rather, they will sit there and say that there is a bit of lint on the bedsheet and criticize the wife for being a bad homemaker and sit on their butts and ask them for a glass of water or their shoes. I think it has a lot to do with the mindset of the Great Indian Male and the influence of the male-dominated society. Having said that, there are men, men who help out, men who respect, men who truly believe in equal rights.

  • CookieCrumbsInc.
    24 April 2015 at 3:00 pm

    I got lucky that way… Bae (cannot believe I just typed that out) is SUPER helpful around the house. I think it is mostly because of what he has seen growing up (his father helps his mother around the house). But I know a LOT of men who will not lift a finger when their working wives come back home dead tired, cook, clean and put the children to sleep. Rather, they will sit there and say that there is a bit of lint on the bedsheet and criticize the wife for being a bad homemaker and sit on their butts and ask them for a glass of water or their shoes. I think it has a lot to do with the mindset of the Great Indian Male and the influence of the male-dominated society. Having said that, there are men, men who help out, men who respect, men who truly believe in equal rights.

  • Natalie @ Our Parallel Connection
    25 April 2015 at 3:55 pm

    We mostly run a sexist house, I do most of the cleaning and he does the out side stuff. But in saying that, hubby is a better cook and prefers to do that but gets ever pot and pan out in order to make a yummy meal. My kids all help clean and I make sure both boys and girls share the load.
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  • Natalie @ Our Parallel Connection
    25 April 2015 at 3:55 pm

    We mostly run a sexist house, I do most of the cleaning and he does the out side stuff. But in saying that, hubby is a better cook and prefers to do that but gets ever pot and pan out in order to make a yummy meal. My kids all help clean and I make sure both boys and girls share the load.
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  • jess
    25 April 2015 at 8:10 pm

    Im actually a pretty lazy person, not a clean freak at all. So me and Z share most of the housework. We often cook together, though I plan most of the meals otherwise we would be eating carb overload every night 🙂
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  • jess
    25 April 2015 at 8:10 pm

    Im actually a pretty lazy person, not a clean freak at all. So me and Z share most of the housework. We often cook together, though I plan most of the meals otherwise we would be eating carb overload every night 🙂
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  • Neda B
    26 April 2015 at 6:42 pm

    It is a tricky one trying to balance tasks. I am not working at the moment so I do take on more around the house but we actually do share the cooking 50-50. When I was working full time I rarely cooked and can’t recall cleaning to be honest! Haha forgot about those days…

  • Neda B
    26 April 2015 at 6:42 pm

    It is a tricky one trying to balance tasks. I am not working at the moment so I do take on more around the house but we actually do share the cooking 50-50. When I was working full time I rarely cooked and can’t recall cleaning to be honest! Haha forgot about those days…

  • Grace
    28 April 2015 at 3:05 pm

    Interesting insights into the working cogs of your relationship with Mr Imperfect!
    I have a theory: Guys who have lived on their own from a young age are more flexible in sharing the domestic chores when they start living with their partner. Those who are still living at home until much later in life, I find it more difficult.
    Then again, I’m very happy to be proven wrong 🙂
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  • Grace
    28 April 2015 at 3:05 pm

    Interesting insights into the working cogs of your relationship with Mr Imperfect!
    I have a theory: Guys who have lived on their own from a young age are more flexible in sharing the domestic chores when they start living with their partner. Those who are still living at home until much later in life, I find it more difficult.
    Then again, I’m very happy to be proven wrong 🙂
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