A to Z Challenge Life lessons

R is for Regret nothing #atozchallenge

When I was younger, I remember wanting to go back in time to change a number of things. Change my early childhood experiences. Change the way I treated my first best friend. Change how needy I seemed at some stage. Change the devastating public speaking experience that shredded my confidence to bits. Yeah, I had a fair few regrets.

As I matured though, I began to realise that all that I regretted had in fact made me, me. If it weren’t for those experiences — good or bad — I wouldn’t be the person I am today.

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If I reflect over my last few years, I have had a major failed relationship, some other potentials gone wrong, tried and tested private practice, quit a job after trying it for 7 months, met new people and lost touch with others, crashed a car, travelled, not travelled and well, lived a varied life.

I could mope over the time and effort spent in the long-term relationship. But instead, I choose to take lessons from it. I know what I don’t want in a partner now. I know what I am not willing to put up with.

I could regret the time, effort and money spent on trying out private practice. But instead, I now know that I prefer to work with a team where I can bounce ideas or debrief after a difficult client. I know now that private practice isn’t for me.

I could regret putting myself out there and dating guys after the relationship break up. But I know it has only made me stronger and well, more confident in meeting newer people.

I could regret not having travelled much at a younger age. But instead, I know now that when I wander, I will be doing so with my whole heart and looking forward to intriguing and exciting adventures.

All our experiences shape us. The good ones tend to stick because we can look back on them fondly. But the not-so-good-ones are equally important. They make us resilient. They make us confident. They make us stronger. They help us learn. They teach us lessons.

They tell us we can survive.

And that we are living.

Because after all, life is short. It’s better to live it wholly than to exist with regrets.

Are there things about your life you regret? Or do you believe in regretting nothing?

Do share! 

***This post is part of the April A to Z Challenge and the Ultimate Blog Challenge. You can find my previous posts here***

Until next time,

Cheers!!!

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  • Ananya Kiran
    21 April 2014 at 10:38 am

    I really love your honesty in this post !
    Keep rocking gal 🙂
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  • Ananya Kiran
    21 April 2014 at 10:38 am

    I really love your honesty in this post !
    Keep rocking gal 🙂
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  • Suzy
    21 April 2014 at 11:32 am

    oh wow PB, you absolutely nailed this post. Had me nodding all the way through. Awesome words and love the pic.
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  • Suzy
    21 April 2014 at 11:32 am

    oh wow PB, you absolutely nailed this post. Had me nodding all the way through. Awesome words and love the pic.
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  • Eli
    21 April 2014 at 12:51 pm

    YES! Couldn’t agree more – share that life philosophy all the way! No regrets – Move on:-) Greatly written on Regret Nothing!!
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  • Eli
    21 April 2014 at 12:51 pm

    YES! Couldn’t agree more – share that life philosophy all the way! No regrets – Move on:-) Greatly written on Regret Nothing!!
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  • simple girl
    21 April 2014 at 2:34 pm

    I can see regret cropping up in my mind now and then for quite some time.. I am scared of this change in me because I have not ever regretted anything as of yet. But now regret is happening..
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  • simple girl
    21 April 2014 at 2:34 pm

    I can see regret cropping up in my mind now and then for quite some time.. I am scared of this change in me because I have not ever regretted anything as of yet. But now regret is happening..
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  • nibha
    21 April 2014 at 7:25 pm

    Yes, i have things from the past that i regret.. but i have learned to let go too!!
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  • nibha
    21 April 2014 at 7:25 pm

    Yes, i have things from the past that i regret.. but i have learned to let go too!!
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  • Shailaja V
    21 April 2014 at 9:31 pm

    Regret is futile. Looking for reasons to move on, that is the beauty of experiences. Interesting how we both took a similar bent on R today 😉
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  • Shailaja V
    21 April 2014 at 9:31 pm

    Regret is futile. Looking for reasons to move on, that is the beauty of experiences. Interesting how we both took a similar bent on R today 😉
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  • Rajlakshmi
    21 April 2014 at 10:22 pm

    and that’s how you roll girl… absolutely loved the post. I donot believe in regrets… because at that point, it must have sounded absolutely perfect.
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  • Rajlakshmi
    21 April 2014 at 10:22 pm

    and that’s how you roll girl… absolutely loved the post. I donot believe in regrets… because at that point, it must have sounded absolutely perfect.
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  • nabanita
    21 April 2014 at 10:23 pm

    This makes me think…I know one thing though that you are amazingly strong!
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  • nabanita
    21 April 2014 at 10:23 pm

    This makes me think…I know one thing though that you are amazingly strong!
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  • tara tyler
    22 April 2014 at 1:53 am

    really liking your positive posts and your smile in this one shines thru! we need to live our choices and have no regrets – our past makes us who we are.
    great job with the challenge!
    happy r day!
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  • tara tyler
    22 April 2014 at 1:53 am

    really liking your positive posts and your smile in this one shines thru! we need to live our choices and have no regrets – our past makes us who we are.
    great job with the challenge!
    happy r day!
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  • Bikram
    22 April 2014 at 3:23 am

    Well I think everything happens for a reason. so why regret. It was supposed to have happened for a reason, maybe we are not looking at the brighter side of the situation. which we will in few years to come.

    I might regret something for the way it happened .. but its desitny if it had to happen it will
    Good take though..

    Heloooo .. How are you doing ..

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  • Bikram
    22 April 2014 at 3:23 am

    Well I think everything happens for a reason. so why regret. It was supposed to have happened for a reason, maybe we are not looking at the brighter side of the situation. which we will in few years to come.

    I might regret something for the way it happened .. but its desitny if it had to happen it will
    Good take though..

    Heloooo .. How are you doing ..

    Bikram
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  • Laurel Regan
    22 April 2014 at 9:05 am

    Very well said. Regrets are something that occasionally plague me, so thank you for the inspiring words and fresh outlook.
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  • Laurel Regan
    22 April 2014 at 9:05 am

    Very well said. Regrets are something that occasionally plague me, so thank you for the inspiring words and fresh outlook.
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  • Zita
    22 April 2014 at 8:28 pm

    Sometimes I think there are things that I regret but then I think if they didn’t happen then I wouldn’t be where I am today – there are certainly certain things I probably wish I hadn’t done but I did and nothing I can do about it now…

  • Zita
    22 April 2014 at 8:28 pm

    Sometimes I think there are things that I regret but then I think if they didn’t happen then I wouldn’t be where I am today – there are certainly certain things I probably wish I hadn’t done but I did and nothing I can do about it now…

  • Shilpa Garg
    23 April 2014 at 3:17 am

    We all have some regrets but the key is to let go, learn and move on. Living a life with regrets will only stagnate us. Loved that pic of yours 🙂
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  • Shilpa Garg
    23 April 2014 at 3:17 am

    We all have some regrets but the key is to let go, learn and move on. Living a life with regrets will only stagnate us. Loved that pic of yours 🙂
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