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O is for Openness #atozchallenge

When I first started studying psychology, we learnt about personality. One of the theories was about the Five Factor Model of personality and it looked at the Big Five Personality Traits: Openness to experience, Extraversion, Conscientiousness, Agreeableness and Neuroticism. Personality is not something that is set in stone. And one thing I have noticed is that my Openness to experience has definitely changed in the last couple of years enabling me to live a much fuller life.

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Earlier I used to be quite cautious in many ways. Sure, I was curious when it came to my imagination or anything intellectual. But not so much when it came to experiences in life. I tended to prefer the tried and tested. But when I decided last Β year to get out of my comfort zone, it showed me a whole new world and a whole new me as I previously talked about.

I think though that in order to be open to new experiences, I needed to have an open mind as well as be an open book. I had to let go off my defenses and trust people. Show my imperfections and be myself. I am generally open-minded but I realised I needed to open my mind even more. To not be rigid about things I used to be. To not be a stickler for every rule I had made up for myself and my life. To live a little. This let me enjoy new experiences. Like karaoke for instance. Or travelling a bit more rather than just saving money for a rainy day. Or to just meet new people.

To really live my life, I have learnt that I need to be completely and utterly open. In my mind. In my soul. And in my heart.

And the experiences will come.

How open are you to new experiences? Are you an open book?

Do share!

***This post is part of the April A to Z Challenge and the Ultimate Blog Challenge. You can read my other posts here***

Until next time,

Cheers!!!

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  • Monica
    17 April 2014 at 8:23 am

    Another one that made me think and analyse myself. PB, you make me work hard, you do. But I’m enjoying it. πŸ™‚
    Yes, I can relate to how your appetite for experiences has evolved – mine has too. I’m still cautious but at least I’m open to considering things like a bungee jump or being flung around in a roller coaster. That’s a long way from the way I used to be.
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  • Monica
    17 April 2014 at 8:23 am

    Another one that made me think and analyse myself. PB, you make me work hard, you do. But I’m enjoying it. πŸ™‚
    Yes, I can relate to how your appetite for experiences has evolved – mine has too. I’m still cautious but at least I’m open to considering things like a bungee jump or being flung around in a roller coaster. That’s a long way from the way I used to be.
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  • Aditi
    17 April 2014 at 2:25 pm

    More than anything it is your mind that has to keep on evolving, and openess to new experiences, thoughts, people, culture helps in your growth! Again a great post PB! Loving your series! Enjoy your weekend!

  • Aditi
    17 April 2014 at 2:25 pm

    More than anything it is your mind that has to keep on evolving, and openess to new experiences, thoughts, people, culture helps in your growth! Again a great post PB! Loving your series! Enjoy your weekend!

  • Julie
    17 April 2014 at 2:56 pm

    The older I get the more willing I am to try anything. Though less willing to try physical things, eg, no worries doing sky diving when I was younger, yet I was asked the other day if I would try bungee jumping, all I could think of how much that would hurt my knees.
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  • Julie
    17 April 2014 at 2:56 pm

    The older I get the more willing I am to try anything. Though less willing to try physical things, eg, no worries doing sky diving when I was younger, yet I was asked the other day if I would try bungee jumping, all I could think of how much that would hurt my knees.
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  • Julie Jordan Scott
    17 April 2014 at 4:11 pm

    I am quite open to new experiences, though I have an aversion to certain physical experiences. Ironically some of my biggest break throughs have been from overcoming my fears and recognizing my physical strength. Imagine that!

    I’m glad I popped by for a visit today. Good stuff!

    Julie Jordan Scott
    The Bold Writer from A to Z
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  • Julie Jordan Scott
    17 April 2014 at 4:11 pm

    I am quite open to new experiences, though I have an aversion to certain physical experiences. Ironically some of my biggest break throughs have been from overcoming my fears and recognizing my physical strength. Imagine that!

    I’m glad I popped by for a visit today. Good stuff!

    Julie Jordan Scott
    The Bold Writer from A to Z
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  • simple girl
    17 April 2014 at 4:47 pm

    Oh PB your posts just make me look at myself and analyze.. I am loving your posts.. Would have loved to subscribe .. Yes there a way ? Pardon me, cause I could not find one..

    And about openness. It is really difficult for me to open up and be comfortable around people.. Do not know how to ease that up …
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  • simple girl
    17 April 2014 at 4:47 pm

    Oh PB your posts just make me look at myself and analyze.. I am loving your posts.. Would have loved to subscribe .. Yes there a way ? Pardon me, cause I could not find one..

    And about openness. It is really difficult for me to open up and be comfortable around people.. Do not know how to ease that up …
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  • nabanita
    17 April 2014 at 5:59 pm

    I’m open at times while at other I complain and am reluctant…But life still drags me there…
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  • Suzy
    17 April 2014 at 8:03 pm

    To really live my life, I have learnt that I need to be completely and utterly open. In my mind. In my soul. And in my heart. And the experiences will come. – you said it all so beautifully. And thank you for the reminder. Top post!
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  • S(t)ri
    17 April 2014 at 8:37 pm

    Waaah!!! Very simple yet profound post… you have conveyed a simple logic so beautifully!

    ~S(t)ri
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  • Sitara Nair
    17 April 2014 at 10:45 pm

    Even I am reluctant…..
    Tried and tested I prefer…but still sometimes I just plunge in
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  • Michelle Liew
    18 April 2014 at 3:04 am

    It’s vitally important to be open to new experiences. Then and only then can we grow.
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  • Laurel Regan
    18 April 2014 at 5:22 am

    I think I’m pretty open to new experiences. And I’ve learned to never say never!
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  • Inderpreet Kaur Uppal
    18 April 2014 at 5:04 pm

    I too agree with age we become more open and begin to enjoy life more. Cheers to being open to everything new and fresh. May we be always interested in new things and ideas.
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  • Zita
    18 April 2014 at 9:51 pm

    Oh how I wish I was more open! Definitely not an open book, such an introvert….and I am kind of open to new adventures..sometimes…maybe (hehe..)
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  • Rajlakshmi
    20 April 2014 at 1:44 am

    One thing I can’t do or that give me creeps is meeting new people. I am so bad at that. I somehow controlled it back in India by going to blog meets… But here apart from my usual gang I hardly meet any one new. I love how you have brought about change in yourself. Inspires me. πŸ™‚
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