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L is for Loving your own company #atozchallenge

solitude

Until I came to Australia I was used to living with a loud family. Sometimes, way too loud for my own liking. I remember loving it when every one of them went out and I had the place to myself. Which got rarer as I grew older thanks to my dad’s mother living with us and well, not going anywhere as such.

I remember always enjoying my own time. Whether it was travelling to and from uni {and later work} or working out at the gym, it was always nice to have me-time. I was never short of thoughts, never short of conversations with myself.Β 

Somehow though, after coming to Australia, I felt quite alone at the start. Here was all the solitude I had wanted and suddenly, I didn’t want it any more. I wanted people around! Go figure. But then, as time went on and I made friends, I felt better. I was ok having my own company. I found that I enjoyed going to the shops by myself. Or going for a walk. And exercising. But there were other things I didn’t like doing by myself. Like hiking or the beach or anything social for that matter. I got used to do these in particular with The Ex. After the break up though, I made myself go to the beach alone one time. And I was hooked.

I loved the solitude and the time by myself. I loved my own company while wandering around the shops as well. And then, I did the big thing last year. Well, big for me. I went on a holiday by myself. My first ever. And it was the best thing I ever did. I enjoyed it thoroughly. It was a week long and I got time to reflect on myself and what I wanted. Especially as I was going through a bit of a hard time. It helped me think. It helped me connect with myself.

I am perfectly fine going most places by myself and am confident and happy in my own company {next step: movies!} I still love being with others and do feel more energised when with others lately. But I think that has come as a result of being comfortable being alone. I think we all need to do that to learn about ourselves, to reflect on our lives and more importantly, to know that life doesn’t end when there is no one else around.

Life sometimes, is just beginning.

Do you enjoy your own company?

Do share!

***This post is part of the April A to Z Challenge and the Ultimate Blog Challenge. You can read my previous posts here***

Until next time,

Cheers!!!

 

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  • nibha
    14 April 2014 at 6:47 am

    yes i do enjoy my company often, it helps me in connecting with myself gives me me-time. But at the same time I hate being left alone, it makes me feel lonely and I know i need to change it!
    going on a vacation all by yourself, big step PB! I don’t think I will ever do that.. and I hate going to shops alone. I need someone to accompany me.. and Yah for walks too.. May be there’s still lot to learn.

  • nibha
    14 April 2014 at 6:47 am

    yes i do enjoy my company often, it helps me in connecting with myself gives me me-time. But at the same time I hate being left alone, it makes me feel lonely and I know i need to change it!
    going on a vacation all by yourself, big step PB! I don’t think I will ever do that.. and I hate going to shops alone. I need someone to accompany me.. and Yah for walks too.. May be there’s still lot to learn.

  • arpita mudit
    14 April 2014 at 7:01 am

    I share similar feelings. I love to be with myself, the me-time. People say I am a loner, earlier I used to think the same, but I realize its importance now. Its joyous to know yourself, dive in your own soul and thoughts. I loved your write up.

  • arpita mudit
    14 April 2014 at 7:01 am

    I share similar feelings. I love to be with myself, the me-time. People say I am a loner, earlier I used to think the same, but I realize its importance now. Its joyous to know yourself, dive in your own soul and thoughts. I loved your write up.

  • Jyotsna Bhatia
    14 April 2014 at 7:03 am

    I totally love my own company.. I love being lost in thoughts all alone. It somehow brings me a lot of peace. And I so want to go on a holiday alone someday. Hope I can manage it sometime.

  • Jyotsna Bhatia
    14 April 2014 at 7:03 am

    I totally love my own company.. I love being lost in thoughts all alone. It somehow brings me a lot of peace. And I so want to go on a holiday alone someday. Hope I can manage it sometime.

  • Kirra
    14 April 2014 at 9:07 am

    I don’t mind going places by myself, but I don’t like driving, so that complicates things. πŸ™‚ I’ve never taken a vacation by myself, but I can how that would be neat.
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  • Kirra
    14 April 2014 at 9:07 am

    I don’t mind going places by myself, but I don’t like driving, so that complicates things. πŸ™‚ I’ve never taken a vacation by myself, but I can how that would be neat.
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  • Beloo Mehra
    14 April 2014 at 2:47 pm

    I guess growing up in urban India most of us end up liking a bit of solitude simply because most of the time there isn’t any πŸ™‚ I can relate to what you write here – I like my own company, quite a lot actually πŸ™‚ It is in a way liberating I feel. Not to rely on others for the “feel-good” but on one’s own inner selves. Very good post!
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  • Beloo Mehra
    14 April 2014 at 2:47 pm

    I guess growing up in urban India most of us end up liking a bit of solitude simply because most of the time there isn’t any πŸ™‚ I can relate to what you write here – I like my own company, quite a lot actually πŸ™‚ It is in a way liberating I feel. Not to rely on others for the “feel-good” but on one’s own inner selves. Very good post!
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  • Eli
    14 April 2014 at 4:08 pm

    Very enjoyable read as always!! I am more an extrovert person, but sometimes I love just spending quality time with myself– just sitting on the balcony, staring… (!) , or put on some music, enjoy a good read.. Yeah , that silence and peace and quiet I do cherish:-)
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  • Eli
    14 April 2014 at 4:08 pm

    Very enjoyable read as always!! I am more an extrovert person, but sometimes I love just spending quality time with myself– just sitting on the balcony, staring… (!) , or put on some music, enjoy a good read.. Yeah , that silence and peace and quiet I do cherish:-)
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  • Shailaja V
    14 April 2014 at 4:14 pm

    Truer words were never spoken. I think that in order to be truly happy, we must first be comfortable with ourselves. That includes being alone when required and learning to enjoy that. Me, I love my books, my tea and my solitude on a rainy afternoon or when the spouse and kid have gone shopping and left me to my devices. So much scope for introspection and growth at those times.
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  • Shailaja V
    14 April 2014 at 4:14 pm

    Truer words were never spoken. I think that in order to be truly happy, we must first be comfortable with ourselves. That includes being alone when required and learning to enjoy that. Me, I love my books, my tea and my solitude on a rainy afternoon or when the spouse and kid have gone shopping and left me to my devices. So much scope for introspection and growth at those times.
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  • lynneinpborough
    14 April 2014 at 4:16 pm

    Great post, very thought provoking. Having spent the first half of my life never wanting to be on my own I’ve spent the second half loving my own company. Rather too much these days.
    I prefer to go to see a movie on my own these days. I go at an odd time of the day when there’s very few there, once there were only 4 of us all, on our own.. It felt like we were together which was weird!
    Try not to have too much time on your own or, like me, you may end up being alone.
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  • lynneinpborough
    14 April 2014 at 4:16 pm

    Great post, very thought provoking. Having spent the first half of my life never wanting to be on my own I’ve spent the second half loving my own company. Rather too much these days.
    I prefer to go to see a movie on my own these days. I go at an odd time of the day when there’s very few there, once there were only 4 of us all, on our own.. It felt like we were together which was weird!
    Try not to have too much time on your own or, like me, you may end up being alone.
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  • Vinodini Iyer
    14 April 2014 at 4:23 pm

    Been there done that…and am still doing it! So, I completely relate to this post….loved reading it.I love being by myself most of the times but at times prefer catching up with a few select people.I once watched a movie all by myself and felt quite liberated…coz its rare to find a woman going for a movie all by herself!
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  • Vinodini Iyer
    14 April 2014 at 4:23 pm

    Been there done that…and am still doing it! So, I completely relate to this post….loved reading it.I love being by myself most of the times but at times prefer catching up with a few select people.I once watched a movie all by myself and felt quite liberated…coz its rare to find a woman going for a movie all by herself!
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  • nabanita
    14 April 2014 at 6:35 pm

    I love my own company too…I love being alone…And I don’t mind being alone…ofcourse I need to know all those I love are fine and then I don’t mind being alone at all..I can think clearly and have more time for myself then πŸ™‚
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  • nabanita
    14 April 2014 at 6:35 pm

    I love my own company too…I love being alone…And I don’t mind being alone…ofcourse I need to know all those I love are fine and then I don’t mind being alone at all..I can think clearly and have more time for myself then πŸ™‚
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  • sugandha
    14 April 2014 at 6:40 pm

    I live alone…and except certain days when loneliness creeps in, I am perfectly okay with it. However, holiday on my own is something that I am yet to do.
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  • sugandha
    14 April 2014 at 6:40 pm

    I live alone…and except certain days when loneliness creeps in, I am perfectly okay with it. However, holiday on my own is something that I am yet to do.
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  • Prasanna Rao
    14 April 2014 at 6:46 pm

    Yes, I love my own company and I love the time I get to spend alone, which is very rare, what with a 2-year old daughter constantly demanding attention. Wow, I have always wanted to travel alone but I am hesitant about it. Maybe movies, and if I can go alone to a movie, I’ll think about a vacation all alone πŸ™‚

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    14 April 2014 at 6:46 pm

    Yes, I love my own company and I love the time I get to spend alone, which is very rare, what with a 2-year old daughter constantly demanding attention. Wow, I have always wanted to travel alone but I am hesitant about it. Maybe movies, and if I can go alone to a movie, I’ll think about a vacation all alone πŸ™‚

  • simple girl
    14 April 2014 at 7:45 pm

    I used to enjoy my company a lot.. But these days I want to be with someone.. πŸ™ .. so strange ..
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    14 April 2014 at 7:45 pm

    I used to enjoy my company a lot.. But these days I want to be with someone.. πŸ™ .. so strange ..
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  • Cecilia
    14 April 2014 at 8:05 pm

    I love my own company. As a writer, uninterrupted me time is vital but I don’t often achieve it.
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  • Cecilia
    14 April 2014 at 8:05 pm

    I love my own company. As a writer, uninterrupted me time is vital but I don’t often achieve it.
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  • Soumya
    14 April 2014 at 9:55 pm

    No matter how much I need my husband for everything, I absolutely need my “ME” time too. Without which I get all cranky and irritated. Its the best time for me to retrospect and work on myself.
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    14 April 2014 at 9:55 pm

    No matter how much I need my husband for everything, I absolutely need my “ME” time too. Without which I get all cranky and irritated. Its the best time for me to retrospect and work on myself.
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  • Debbie
    14 April 2014 at 11:01 pm

    It’s important to be comfortable on your own. As an only child, I learned this early in life. Still have plenty of time to myself, even after 40+ years of marriage. πŸ™‚ It’s good to maintain a certain amount of independence within a relationship too.
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  • Debbie
    14 April 2014 at 11:01 pm

    It’s important to be comfortable on your own. As an only child, I learned this early in life. Still have plenty of time to myself, even after 40+ years of marriage. πŸ™‚ It’s good to maintain a certain amount of independence within a relationship too.
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  • melanie schulz
    15 April 2014 at 12:49 am

    I call it going on a date with myself, and I try to do it as often as I can.

  • melanie schulz
    15 April 2014 at 12:49 am

    I call it going on a date with myself, and I try to do it as often as I can.

  • Ramona
    15 April 2014 at 12:54 am

    Great post! Yes, I have learned to enjoy my own company. It wasn’t until my late 20’s and it wasn’t always easy but now I truly appreciate time I get to myself.

  • Ramona
    15 April 2014 at 12:54 am

    Great post! Yes, I have learned to enjoy my own company. It wasn’t until my late 20’s and it wasn’t always easy but now I truly appreciate time I get to myself.

  • Cathy Bennett
    15 April 2014 at 2:21 am

    While my husband and I traveled around the world with the military, I adjusted to new beginnings over and over again with each new assignment. I learned to “like” being with myself because I knew no one and more often didn’t know the language. I grew to appreciate the silence and find myself longing for it now that he’s retired and we have lived in the same home for almost 15 years.
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    15 April 2014 at 2:21 am

    While my husband and I traveled around the world with the military, I adjusted to new beginnings over and over again with each new assignment. I learned to “like” being with myself because I knew no one and more often didn’t know the language. I grew to appreciate the silence and find myself longing for it now that he’s retired and we have lived in the same home for almost 15 years.
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  • sueannbowlingauthor
    15 April 2014 at 3:15 am

    I’ve lived alone all of my life. Suits me fine.
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    15 April 2014 at 3:15 am

    I’ve lived alone all of my life. Suits me fine.
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  • Lala
    15 April 2014 at 3:31 am

    I can totally relate with your experience of feeling alone and wanting to be around people when you moved to Australia. I had exactly the same issue that I couldn’t bear my own company. I was always seeking something or someone externally to keep me busy, involved and happy. Anyhow, it’s been almost a year since I am in France now and finally now, like you, I have started to grow to like my own company. In fact, I can vouch for the truth behind the famous quote ” It’s better to be alone than to be with someone and feel lonely! Keep writing. Bonne courage!

  • Lala
    15 April 2014 at 3:31 am

    I can totally relate with your experience of feeling alone and wanting to be around people when you moved to Australia. I had exactly the same issue that I couldn’t bear my own company. I was always seeking something or someone externally to keep me busy, involved and happy. Anyhow, it’s been almost a year since I am in France now and finally now, like you, I have started to grow to like my own company. In fact, I can vouch for the truth behind the famous quote ” It’s better to be alone than to be with someone and feel lonely! Keep writing. Bonne courage!

  • Laurel Regan
    15 April 2014 at 4:20 am

    I love being with people, but I do enjoy my own company as well. When I worked downtown I used to eat lunch at restaurants by myself, and got quite used to it – and I’ve even been to a movie on my own! It’s not as scary as you might think. πŸ™‚
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  • Laurel Regan
    15 April 2014 at 4:20 am

    I love being with people, but I do enjoy my own company as well. When I worked downtown I used to eat lunch at restaurants by myself, and got quite used to it – and I’ve even been to a movie on my own! It’s not as scary as you might think. πŸ™‚
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  • Chad A. Clark
    15 April 2014 at 6:37 am

    I do enjoy my own company, often getting myself into trouble as I think I often come off to the rest of my family as withdrawn and a-social. But growing up in Iowa with my mom being the only member of my family around (father moved out of state) I was forced to come up with ways of entertaining myself. Lots of reading and writing, I grew to enjoy the sounds of my own thoughts over the years and it still never fails to come through for me.
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  • Chad A. Clark
    15 April 2014 at 6:37 am

    I do enjoy my own company, often getting myself into trouble as I think I often come off to the rest of my family as withdrawn and a-social. But growing up in Iowa with my mom being the only member of my family around (father moved out of state) I was forced to come up with ways of entertaining myself. Lots of reading and writing, I grew to enjoy the sounds of my own thoughts over the years and it still never fails to come through for me.
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  • maanneilaganlopez
    15 April 2014 at 8:45 am

    So true. I love my own company. I am more comfortable to think when I’m on my own.
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  • maanneilaganlopez
    15 April 2014 at 8:45 am

    So true. I love my own company. I am more comfortable to think when I’m on my own.
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  • Rajlakshmi
    15 April 2014 at 9:24 am

    I love my own company πŸ™‚ sometimes I take off from office just to be alone at home πŸ™‚ ahh so peaceful!!
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  • Rajlakshmi
    15 April 2014 at 9:24 am

    I love my own company πŸ™‚ sometimes I take off from office just to be alone at home πŸ™‚ ahh so peaceful!!
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  • J.Gi Federizo
    15 April 2014 at 11:44 am

    Oh, I do love my own company! I like getting together with friends, but I love my solitude, too πŸ™‚

    BTW, I like how and what you write. I will follow πŸ™‚
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    15 April 2014 at 11:44 am

    Oh, I do love my own company! I like getting together with friends, but I love my solitude, too πŸ™‚

    BTW, I like how and what you write. I will follow πŸ™‚
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  • Kimberly Gauthier
    15 April 2014 at 11:12 pm

    I was an only child and still love the solitude today. I do love to get together with friends, but when given a choice to a quiet evening at home or a night on the town – I’ll stay home πŸ™‚ I was raised to enjoy my own company. I kind of wish that I enjoyed being in the crowd a little more.
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  • Kimberly Gauthier
    15 April 2014 at 11:12 pm

    I was an only child and still love the solitude today. I do love to get together with friends, but when given a choice to a quiet evening at home or a night on the town – I’ll stay home πŸ™‚ I was raised to enjoy my own company. I kind of wish that I enjoyed being in the crowd a little more.
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  • Suzy
    17 April 2014 at 8:11 pm

    I am totally comfortable being in my own company. I’ve done the dine alone but not yet the movie – it’s on my things to do list.
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  • Suzy
    17 April 2014 at 8:11 pm

    I am totally comfortable being in my own company. I’ve done the dine alone but not yet the movie – it’s on my things to do list.
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  • Shail Raghuvanshi
    26 April 2014 at 10:12 pm

    Lovely piece. There was a time I used to think that being alone was being lonely but realized the value of solitude. And how beautiful it felt to connect within and in the process energize others too.
    Keep writing friend…

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  • Shail Raghuvanshi
    26 April 2014 at 10:12 pm

    Lovely piece. There was a time I used to think that being alone was being lonely but realized the value of solitude. And how beautiful it felt to connect within and in the process energize others too.
    Keep writing friend…

    My take on the letter L
    http://musenmotivation.wordpress.com/2014/04/25/l-for-lost-and-found/
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