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I is for Imperfect #atozchallenge

If you haven’t been following me for a long time, you probably don’t know the story about my epiphany late last year. Anyway, I had this epiphany after watching Brene Brown’s TED talk and then read her book, the ‘Gifts of Imperfection’.

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For someone who used to be a perfectionist, I now proudly proclaim that I am imperfect. {Don’t believe me? See my description about myself}.Β Just like each and every one of us. And do you know what a sense of relief that is?

There is no more stress to be perfectly behaved. There is no stress about my hair being slight askew on some days. There is no shame in admitting I have crap days. Or that I am not coping with things. And paradoxically, I enjoy life. It is sort of like what I talked about in my post about acceptance; when you accept your imperfections, when you realise you are still worthy and you are enough, life becomes less of a struggle. You don’t fight imperfections. In yourself. In your life, You accept them.

 

Talking about my personal imperfections have helped me connect more with people. A couple of weeks ago, I admitted to the mother of one of my clients that I saw a therapist last year when I wasn’t coping. And that I need to exercise regularly to keep me sane. I shared this ebcause she was talking about some struggles and how she didn’t want to see a therapist because she did years ago, eventually she had to be put on meds and she didn’t want that. But when I shared my imperfect life and my story with her, she said she would think about it. Because it is nice to have someone listen and validate. And maybe it helped her to know that even her child’s therapist is human!

If we don’t share our imperfections with others, we are left thinking we are alone on our journey. Alone with the thoughts and feelings we have. But when we share, we form the biggest thing human beings crave for: Connection.

Sure acknowledging and voicing imperfection is not risk-free. But it’s a risk I have been willing to take. And I’m loving my life a whole lot more for it.

What is one imperfection you are are willing to share about yourself?

Do share!

***This post is part of the April to A to Z Challenge and the Ultimate Blog Challenge. You can find my previous posts here***

Until next time,

Cheers!!!

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  • Shalini
    10 April 2014 at 7:23 am

    Be imperfect and love every minute of it πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ Love the post πŸ™‚
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  • Shalini
    10 April 2014 at 7:23 am

    Be imperfect and love every minute of it πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ Love the post πŸ™‚
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  • Monica
    10 April 2014 at 7:30 am

    Nice one, PB and a reassuring one too. I try for a six sigma status on all fronts and struggle when things don’t go to plan. I need to follow your example and revel in my slightly burnt cookies. πŸ™‚
    On a more serious note, I recall some wise words that someone once said to me – Don’t focus on the ‘How good am I’ bit instead, think about ‘how am I good’ πŸ™‚
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  • Monica
    10 April 2014 at 7:30 am

    Nice one, PB and a reassuring one too. I try for a six sigma status on all fronts and struggle when things don’t go to plan. I need to follow your example and revel in my slightly burnt cookies. πŸ™‚
    On a more serious note, I recall some wise words that someone once said to me – Don’t focus on the ‘How good am I’ bit instead, think about ‘how am I good’ πŸ™‚
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  • Pinky Poinker
    10 April 2014 at 8:54 am

    I worry far too much about my health and the well-being of my kids. That is only one of my imperfections but it sometimes becomes all consuming and I need to snap out of it and enjoy life more. Connection really is a central part of what it is to be a human… couldn’t agree more πŸ™‚
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  • Pinky Poinker
    10 April 2014 at 8:54 am

    I worry far too much about my health and the well-being of my kids. That is only one of my imperfections but it sometimes becomes all consuming and I need to snap out of it and enjoy life more. Connection really is a central part of what it is to be a human… couldn’t agree more πŸ™‚
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  • Ananya Kiran
    10 April 2014 at 10:11 am

    A strong post !
    well, I am not a great cook but I accept my imperfection, when it comes to the art of cooking and keeping the house neat and tidy !

  • Ananya Kiran
    10 April 2014 at 10:11 am

    A strong post !
    well, I am not a great cook but I accept my imperfection, when it comes to the art of cooking and keeping the house neat and tidy !

  • Janine
    10 April 2014 at 10:33 am

    I only just watched Brene Brown’s TED talks on Vulnerability and Shame yesterday. They were amazing and really struck a chord with me – especially the bit about the vulnerability hangover, as that’s EXACTLY how i’ve been feeling since I put it out there on my blog about my anxiety. You think I’d be cool with it since I’ve written about depression for years, but I wasn’t exactly prepared for the reaction to my anxiety admission – both good and bad.

    I am still in the process of embracing my imperfections, but it feels oh so good being able to share and then see other people ‘come out’ about theres.

  • Janine
    10 April 2014 at 10:33 am

    I only just watched Brene Brown’s TED talks on Vulnerability and Shame yesterday. They were amazing and really struck a chord with me – especially the bit about the vulnerability hangover, as that’s EXACTLY how i’ve been feeling since I put it out there on my blog about my anxiety. You think I’d be cool with it since I’ve written about depression for years, but I wasn’t exactly prepared for the reaction to my anxiety admission – both good and bad.

    I am still in the process of embracing my imperfections, but it feels oh so good being able to share and then see other people ‘come out’ about theres.

  • S(t)ri
    10 April 2014 at 2:22 pm

    Yay!!! I loved this!!! I love being imperfect πŸ˜‰

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  • S(t)ri
    10 April 2014 at 2:22 pm

    Yay!!! I loved this!!! I love being imperfect πŸ˜‰

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  • Damyanti
    10 April 2014 at 3:36 pm

    My biggest imperfection is that I’m a perfectionist. I need to learn to let go.
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  • Damyanti
    10 April 2014 at 3:36 pm

    My biggest imperfection is that I’m a perfectionist. I need to learn to let go.
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  • sugandha
    10 April 2014 at 4:08 pm

    i once heard of something called as imperfection-ists club. They would gather once in a month and share those deep fears about some imperfection that they thought they were alone. Imperfection doesn’t mean worthless…
    nice post πŸ™‚
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  • sugandha
    10 April 2014 at 4:08 pm

    i once heard of something called as imperfection-ists club. They would gather once in a month and share those deep fears about some imperfection that they thought they were alone. Imperfection doesn’t mean worthless…
    nice post πŸ™‚
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  • vishalbheeroo
    10 April 2014 at 6:26 pm

    Beautiful post and agree with you, the moment we share our imperfections. we realize we are not along in this road. Admire your courage for speaking out bout imperfections and I can find streak of myself in the post. Couldn’t agree more as we are perfectly imperfect or are we?

  • vishalbheeroo
    10 April 2014 at 6:26 pm

    Beautiful post and agree with you, the moment we share our imperfections. we realize we are not along in this road. Admire your courage for speaking out bout imperfections and I can find streak of myself in the post. Couldn’t agree more as we are perfectly imperfect or are we?

  • nabanita
    10 April 2014 at 6:56 pm

    When hurt by anyone or when let down by anyone my immediate coping mechanism is to hate the person…It’s not right but that’s what I do…But I’m trying to fight it one day at a time..But it’s so hard!
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  • nabanita
    10 April 2014 at 6:56 pm

    When hurt by anyone or when let down by anyone my immediate coping mechanism is to hate the person…It’s not right but that’s what I do…But I’m trying to fight it one day at a time..But it’s so hard!
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  • Rajlakshmi
    10 April 2014 at 9:57 pm

    I got a truckload of imperfections. Ask my husband he would add more. And I love myself just like that πŸ™‚ perfect is boring… I M perfectly imperfect πŸ™‚
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  • Rajlakshmi
    10 April 2014 at 9:57 pm

    I got a truckload of imperfections. Ask my husband he would add more. And I love myself just like that πŸ™‚ perfect is boring… I M perfectly imperfect πŸ™‚
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  • Lizzy - Muddle-Headed Mamma
    10 April 2014 at 11:19 pm

    Only one imperfection?? I have hundreds … I have a very quick temper, I bite my nails, my house is always in caos, I’m always losing things, I still get pimples, my handwriting is horrible, I have two failed major relationships, I’m always putting my foot in my mouth, I’m useless with budgeting and money in general, the list goes on. But the funny thing is, despite all this, I am actually a perfectionist or at least I feature somewhere on the spectrum of perfectionism. My head tells me that if I am not going to be able to do something incredibly well, then not to do it at all. I will think about going for a jog and the next moment my mind will be telling me to get fit enough to run a marathon and then another voice will say “you’ll never be able to do that” and I end up never going for that jog. There are many things in life that I dearly want to try, things that I know I’m not naturally good at but would still love to have a go at, but that same battle in my head rages every time and I never even try. I’m sad to say I have seen my son display the same attitude towards things – he sticks with what he’s good at. Now that I’ve recognised this though I am going to set him the best example I can and try and heal my own affliction with perfection in the process πŸ™‚ Fantastic post, PB!
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  • Lizzy - Muddle-Headed Mamma
    10 April 2014 at 11:19 pm

    Only one imperfection?? I have hundreds … I have a very quick temper, I bite my nails, my house is always in caos, I’m always losing things, I still get pimples, my handwriting is horrible, I have two failed major relationships, I’m always putting my foot in my mouth, I’m useless with budgeting and money in general, the list goes on. But the funny thing is, despite all this, I am actually a perfectionist or at least I feature somewhere on the spectrum of perfectionism. My head tells me that if I am not going to be able to do something incredibly well, then not to do it at all. I will think about going for a jog and the next moment my mind will be telling me to get fit enough to run a marathon and then another voice will say “you’ll never be able to do that” and I end up never going for that jog. There are many things in life that I dearly want to try, things that I know I’m not naturally good at but would still love to have a go at, but that same battle in my head rages every time and I never even try. I’m sad to say I have seen my son display the same attitude towards things – he sticks with what he’s good at. Now that I’ve recognised this though I am going to set him the best example I can and try and heal my own affliction with perfection in the process πŸ™‚ Fantastic post, PB!
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  • Lizzy - Muddle-Headed Mamma
    10 April 2014 at 11:21 pm

    Oh and I spelt chaos wrong … let’s add that to my list of imperfections – I can’t spell! An English teacher who can’t spell. How embarrassing!

  • Lizzy - Muddle-Headed Mamma
    10 April 2014 at 11:21 pm

    Oh and I spelt chaos wrong … let’s add that to my list of imperfections – I can’t spell! An English teacher who can’t spell. How embarrassing!

  • maggie
    11 April 2014 at 3:09 am

    There is nothing to be ashamed of being imperfect. Perfection is hard to come by, it’s an accepted fact, the more pressure we put on ourselves to ‘be perfect’ the more we’re hurting ourselves.
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  • maggie
    11 April 2014 at 3:09 am

    There is nothing to be ashamed of being imperfect. Perfection is hard to come by, it’s an accepted fact, the more pressure we put on ourselves to ‘be perfect’ the more we’re hurting ourselves.
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  • Laurel Regan
    11 April 2014 at 6:54 am

    Funny, but I just commented on another post that I was trying to let go of perfectionism… then I came here and read this! It can be a bit of a struggle, but I think people relate better to someone who doesn’t claim or pretend to be perfect. And life is so much more joyful when you can let go of the need to be perfect!
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  • Laurel Regan
    11 April 2014 at 6:54 am

    Funny, but I just commented on another post that I was trying to let go of perfectionism… then I came here and read this! It can be a bit of a struggle, but I think people relate better to someone who doesn’t claim or pretend to be perfect. And life is so much more joyful when you can let go of the need to be perfect!
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  • Zita
    11 April 2014 at 7:41 pm

    Good on u! I have enjoyed reading ur journey and working towards putting a lot of what u talk about into practice myself!
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  • Zita
    11 April 2014 at 7:41 pm

    Good on u! I have enjoyed reading ur journey and working towards putting a lot of what u talk about into practice myself!
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  • Richa Singh
    12 April 2014 at 2:57 am

    Oh I love imperfect! It is what I thrive on. Especially being a control freak this is my word for sanity, everytime I get too paranoid I quickly add “I am not here to be perfect πŸ˜€ ”
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  • Mrs. Sexy
    12 April 2014 at 5:17 am

    I really appreciated what you said here. I have recently been able to let go of have a flawlessly clean house. With all the bugs that get through these old windows daily it’s just impossible. We are a family of 5 and it is chaos sometimes. So be it. The kitchen gets cleaned once a week and if we’re lucky so do the toilets. lol
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  • Nibha
    12 April 2014 at 8:03 pm

    Loved this post!! I love being perfectly imperfect!! πŸ˜€
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  • Shailaja V
    13 April 2014 at 4:41 am

    This is a brilliant post and I have been meaning to write about something along the same lines. But I don’t think the time is right. You, on the other hand, have nailed it. In so many beautiful words. The moment we admit our imperfections, we open up to connections. I realised that with my ‘Yelling Less’ challenge.
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  • Archana
    13 April 2014 at 1:46 pm

    Great post and very relevant. My list of imperfections too long to list here…
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