Life lessons

Epiphany

On Wednesday night just before I was supposed to go to bed, I watched a TED talk by Brené Brown that had been recommended to me by my friend A ages ago. I think after having written a post about being vulnerable, I remembered him mentioning this talk on ‘The Power of Vulnerability’. And to say I had an epiphany times a hundred after watching  it would be an understatement. Before I go on, here’s the video if you haven’t seen it before.

Now that you’ve watched the video, some of what I am going to ramble about might make sense.

After watching the video, I started reading a book by Brené Brown that I had bought a while back.

book

Anyway, after hearing the talk, it gave me strength to realise that I might have been on to something anyway when I wrote about needing to be vulnerable and yet, how that scares the crap out of me. But at the same time, being vulnerable is being brave. When Brown added that through her research she found that people who live wholehearted lives are those who have the courage to show their vulnerabilities and let go off who they think they should be and share their stories without censorship, thereby being able to make more connections. Finally, these people are also compassionate — towards themselves and others. There were a lot of things that sounded similar to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and I think that’s another reason why it resonated with me.

I learnt that I need to work on being more compassionate towards myself. I also realised that I am going to be courageous and behave in ways I am rather than how I think I should be. I am sick of the anxiety and I’m going to try and let go off a lot of unhelpful thoughts and beliefs associated with the anxiety. I am still reading Brown’s book but I hope to learn a lot and apply a lot more.

But basically, I aim to live courageously.

I aim to let myself be seen.

And that means showing that I’m imperfect.

Like each and every one of us.

***Linking up with Grace for FYBF***

Until next time,

Cheers!!!

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  • Lauren - Gold Coast Mum
    6 December 2013 at 10:45 pm

    Great post! It’s a tough one isn’t it – well for me anyone. It can be hard to be so open, but as you say, a very courageous thing to do! Will check out the video when I get a chance too 🙂 Linking up via FYBF 🙂

    • Psych Babbler
      9 December 2013 at 8:59 am

      Welcome here Lauren! I agree it’s going to be tough…but I also realise that when you are open and honest, you can truly build connections. I feel so connected to a few people that I have been able to do that with. I just have to be more courageous to do more.

  • Lauren - Gold Coast Mum
    6 December 2013 at 10:45 pm

    Great post! It’s a tough one isn’t it – well for me anyone. It can be hard to be so open, but as you say, a very courageous thing to do! Will check out the video when I get a chance too 🙂 Linking up via FYBF 🙂

    • Psych Babbler
      9 December 2013 at 8:59 am

      Welcome here Lauren! I agree it’s going to be tough…but I also realise that when you are open and honest, you can truly build connections. I feel so connected to a few people that I have been able to do that with. I just have to be more courageous to do more.

  • Raindrop
    6 December 2013 at 11:47 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I can now understand myself better and appreciate my behaviour. much grateful!
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    • Psych Babbler
      9 December 2013 at 9:03 am

      Glad it was helpful Raindrop. Like I said, it’s been an epiphany for me too! Hopefully we can live more authentic and connected lives… 🙂

  • Raindrop
    6 December 2013 at 11:47 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I can now understand myself better and appreciate my behaviour. much grateful!
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    • Psych Babbler
      9 December 2013 at 9:03 am

      Glad it was helpful Raindrop. Like I said, it’s been an epiphany for me too! Hopefully we can live more authentic and connected lives… 🙂

  • Jessica
    7 December 2013 at 5:05 am

    Great job opening up and taking that first step! Thanks for sharing and I wish you the best towards achieving your goal to live courageously!
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    • Psych Babbler
      9 December 2013 at 9:30 am

      Welcome here Jessica and thanks…it is hard to open up sometimes and more so since I have had my picture on here. 😛 But it’s a start!
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  • Jessica
    7 December 2013 at 5:05 am

    Great job opening up and taking that first step! Thanks for sharing and I wish you the best towards achieving your goal to live courageously!
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    • Psych Babbler
      9 December 2013 at 9:30 am

      Welcome here Jessica and thanks…it is hard to open up sometimes and more so since I have had my picture on here. 😛 But it’s a start!
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  • Susan Lattwein
    7 December 2013 at 10:04 am

    Great post!! I recently discovered Brene Brown and was moved to write about her TedTalk and the power of vulnerabilty also. This sounds corny but trying to be wholehearted by her definition has really helped me in a meditative way. 🙂

    • Psych Babbler
      9 December 2013 at 9:33 am

      Welcome here Susan! I don’t think it sounds corny at all…I’m aiming to live wholeheartedly and I guess authentically thanks to her! I think it’s a good value to have…

  • Susan Lattwein
    7 December 2013 at 10:04 am

    Great post!! I recently discovered Brene Brown and was moved to write about her TedTalk and the power of vulnerabilty also. This sounds corny but trying to be wholehearted by her definition has really helped me in a meditative way. 🙂

    • Psych Babbler
      9 December 2013 at 9:33 am

      Welcome here Susan! I don’t think it sounds corny at all…I’m aiming to live wholeheartedly and I guess authentically thanks to her! I think it’s a good value to have…

  • Starry
    7 December 2013 at 10:57 pm

    It really is a better way to live. I deal with anxiety and second-guessing too. But its curious…every single time, I respond to something or someone with my very authentic self, it really has startling results either immediately or long-term. At work, it happened recently, where I connected with a blogger with a meaningful comment about her write up on working women. I beat myself up all day, for being too open and honest in my comment and how vulnerable I made myself, and then to my utter shock, she reached out to me and said no one had ever commented like that and we ended up having a long chat. I do believe I made a real friend!
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    • Psych Babbler
      9 December 2013 at 9:45 am

      Thanks for sharing that Starry…and that’s what I’ve noticed too. There are a few people I have been able to be completely open and honest with and I’m amazed at how we then connect. It’s like saying “here’s me in my entirety…take me or leave me.” And most people connect with that sort of courageousness I suppose.

  • Starry
    7 December 2013 at 10:57 pm

    It really is a better way to live. I deal with anxiety and second-guessing too. But its curious…every single time, I respond to something or someone with my very authentic self, it really has startling results either immediately or long-term. At work, it happened recently, where I connected with a blogger with a meaningful comment about her write up on working women. I beat myself up all day, for being too open and honest in my comment and how vulnerable I made myself, and then to my utter shock, she reached out to me and said no one had ever commented like that and we ended up having a long chat. I do believe I made a real friend!
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    • Psych Babbler
      9 December 2013 at 9:45 am

      Thanks for sharing that Starry…and that’s what I’ve noticed too. There are a few people I have been able to be completely open and honest with and I’m amazed at how we then connect. It’s like saying “here’s me in my entirety…take me or leave me.” And most people connect with that sort of courageousness I suppose.

  • Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me
    8 December 2013 at 8:35 pm

    I try and do this but it’s hard isn’t it – there are also lots of people at every turn trying to cut us down. Good for you starting on this path lovely xx
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    • Psych Babbler
      9 December 2013 at 9:47 am

      It’s bloody hard Emily but I think that’s what makes it a courageous act. We are all probably shitting ourselves while doing it and yes, definitely putting ourselves out there for people to cut us down any second. But hopefully, it will mean we can weed out the inauthentic ones and connect with the real ones.

  • Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me
    8 December 2013 at 8:35 pm

    I try and do this but it’s hard isn’t it – there are also lots of people at every turn trying to cut us down. Good for you starting on this path lovely xx
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    • Psych Babbler
      9 December 2013 at 9:47 am

      It’s bloody hard Emily but I think that’s what makes it a courageous act. We are all probably shitting ourselves while doing it and yes, definitely putting ourselves out there for people to cut us down any second. But hopefully, it will mean we can weed out the inauthentic ones and connect with the real ones.

  • Kinmin
    2 February 2014 at 3:10 pm

    This is a beautiful post and I really liked the TED talk.. thanks for sharing!
    And I could totally relate to the part where she says that when you numb shame and fear, you also numb joy and other positive feelings. And yes, I agree it’s hard to share your deepest fears and emotions with other people, but then hopefully, will help build a strong connections and help you lead a happier life. I’m also trying to work on this!
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    2 February 2014 at 3:10 pm

    This is a beautiful post and I really liked the TED talk.. thanks for sharing!
    And I could totally relate to the part where she says that when you numb shame and fear, you also numb joy and other positive feelings. And yes, I agree it’s hard to share your deepest fears and emotions with other people, but then hopefully, will help build a strong connections and help you lead a happier life. I’m also trying to work on this!
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