All about the mind

Taking time for therapy

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Earlier this year, I crashed mentally. I was so stressed out and burnt out with both work and personal stuff that I eventually bit the bullet and booked an appointment with a psychologist. Yes, in spite of being one myself.

That first step to ask for help was probably the hardest thing I’ve ever done.

I still remember making that call to the psychologist. Telling her that I was wary about doing this given that I am a psychologist myself. But she allayed my fears. She helped me understand that in order to be able to help others effectively, I need to help myself.

As I went for that initial appointment, my fears were still there. The fear of being judged. The fear of having to open up to a complete stranger. The fear of being thought of as an incompetent professional for not being able to cope with my worries and stressors. In many ways, it made me reflect on what it must feel like for my own clients. And how brave it is for them to open up to me with their deepest and darkest fears. The initial session was not how I expected. I eventually got over some of the fears and opened up. Just a bit. But I noticed I kept things safe. Talking mainly about stress at work.

By the next session though, I felt comfortable enough to open up about one of my deepest fears. One that I have never mentioned to anyone. Ever. And I broke down. Because hearing it out loud made it so much more real. And my therapist was amazing. All she did was validate. Validate my feelings and my fears. It made me feel heard. It made me feel understood. It’s something that I have craved for most of my life. And it was great to have someone tell me it’s okay to feel the way I do. And that there was no need to feel guilty for feeling this way.

We had a couple more sessions back then and I felt like I got back on track. She kept the door open for me though. Just in case.

And you know what? Recently, I hit a roadblock again. Let’s just say there have been a few things happening that made me think I needed to speak to her again. It was a lot easier making the call this time around. I figure I will see her for a few more sessions to get some of my worries sorted out better.

The point of this post though is that there is light at the end of that tunnel. Sometimes, it takes a little courage to make that call and take that step to ask for help. Sadly, there continues to be a lot of stigma attached to seeing a psychologist. But whether it’s for a mental health problem or just life getting out of control, seeking help is always an option. Just as you would see a doctor for your physical health concerns, it is important to see a mental health professional for your mental wellbeing.

Be brave.

And take that first step.

***Disclaimer: I am not in any way affiliated with Talking Minds nor have I accessed their services. This post is about seeking therapy in general for any problem you may have. I am passionate about mental health and will continue to write about the same on this space***

Until next time,

Cheers!!!

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  • Janet @ Redland City Living
    13 November 2013 at 9:33 am

    I think it’s really important to keep talking about this stuff – like you and I are doing – and letting people know that you don’t have to be crazy to benefit from seeing a psychologist! 🙂
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    • Psych Babbler
      14 November 2013 at 5:41 pm

      I agree Janet…we have to remove the stigma attached with seeking therapy! It’s so helpful even if it’s not necessarily a diagnosable mental illness…

  • Janet @ Redland City Living
    13 November 2013 at 9:33 am

    I think it’s really important to keep talking about this stuff – like you and I are doing – and letting people know that you don’t have to be crazy to benefit from seeing a psychologist! 🙂
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    • Psych Babbler
      14 November 2013 at 5:41 pm

      I agree Janet…we have to remove the stigma attached with seeking therapy! It’s so helpful even if it’s not necessarily a diagnosable mental illness…

  • kanupriya
    13 November 2013 at 1:21 pm

    M glad you accepted the problem & went to seek out help. Not many do that. Kudos & sending you positive vibes for happiness ahead 🙂
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    • Psych Babbler
      14 November 2013 at 5:42 pm

      Thanks Kanupriya…yes, the first step was admitting I had a problem and then realising I needed more help. Thanks!
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  • kanupriya
    13 November 2013 at 1:21 pm

    M glad you accepted the problem & went to seek out help. Not many do that. Kudos & sending you positive vibes for happiness ahead 🙂
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    • Psych Babbler
      14 November 2013 at 5:42 pm

      Thanks Kanupriya…yes, the first step was admitting I had a problem and then realising I needed more help. Thanks!
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  • Kerri
    13 November 2013 at 2:17 pm

    I too am a Psych and have seen a Psych a number of times over the years….we are human and imperfect….we also need guidance and support at times. I think it makes me a better Psychologist

    • Psych Babbler
      14 November 2013 at 5:43 pm

      Welcome here Kerri and thank you so much for sharing your views! I agree that we are human too and need support. I guess it’s like doctors needing to see other doctors for medical help. Yet, there is a stigma in the psychology community and no one really admits they seek out a therapist. Oh and totally agree that it makes us better psychologists!!

  • Kerri
    13 November 2013 at 2:17 pm

    I too am a Psych and have seen a Psych a number of times over the years….we are human and imperfect….we also need guidance and support at times. I think it makes me a better Psychologist

    • Psych Babbler
      14 November 2013 at 5:43 pm

      Welcome here Kerri and thank you so much for sharing your views! I agree that we are human too and need support. I guess it’s like doctors needing to see other doctors for medical help. Yet, there is a stigma in the psychology community and no one really admits they seek out a therapist. Oh and totally agree that it makes us better psychologists!!

  • Janine
    13 November 2013 at 8:49 pm

    Wow – guess what I did yesterday BEFORE reading your post. Booked an appointment for next week. Strange things…
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    • Psych Babbler
      14 November 2013 at 5:45 pm

      Oh wow Janine…what a coincidence! It’s really helpful though, isn’t it? Hope all is well… *hugs*

  • Janine
    13 November 2013 at 8:49 pm

    Wow – guess what I did yesterday BEFORE reading your post. Booked an appointment for next week. Strange things…
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    • Psych Babbler
      14 November 2013 at 5:45 pm

      Oh wow Janine…what a coincidence! It’s really helpful though, isn’t it? Hope all is well… *hugs*

  • Viji Venu
    16 November 2013 at 7:16 am

    It is always challenging to come out of the zone and share yourselves to anyone. More over i guess it has to do a lot with the trust factor. I have not yet a reason to meet a Psych. But I would love to talk to one given a chance.
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    • Psych Babbler
      18 November 2013 at 7:49 pm

      It sure is difficult Viji but so worth it if you find the right psych… 🙂

  • Viji Venu
    16 November 2013 at 7:16 am

    It is always challenging to come out of the zone and share yourselves to anyone. More over i guess it has to do a lot with the trust factor. I have not yet a reason to meet a Psych. But I would love to talk to one given a chance.
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    • Psych Babbler
      18 November 2013 at 7:49 pm

      It sure is difficult Viji but so worth it if you find the right psych… 🙂

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