Life

Of regrets in life

I enter my 30th year in about four months’ time. Do I have any regrets from the previous 29?

Let’s see…

Do I regret growing up in a culture where I didn’t have the opportunity to play sport for a proper team despite loving cricket and football?

Do I regret giving in to stage fright at the age of 12 and not trying to overcome it for almost a decade?

Do I regret on not being assertive enough to tell off people who took advantage of passive nature during my undergraduate years?

Do I regret being in a long-term relationship that was pretty much dead longer than I needed to?

Do I regret losing a part of myself to be what someone else might have wanted?

Do I regret not getting out of my comfort zone earlier in life?

 

 

Not really because…

…not having equal opportunities for women made me the feminist I am today and willing to fight for equal rights.

…having had anxious teenage years helps me empathise more with my anxious clients and give them examples from my own life.

…these experiences shaped me to become more assertive.

…this relationship showed me what I don’t want in a relationship.

…I now know what not to do in a relationship.

…it’s never too late to change and push yourself.

So yes, while we may have regrets, I am a firm believer in that our experiences shape who we are today. Had things happened differently, I may not be where I am today or for that matter, the person I am today.

And I do like who I am.

One of my all time favourite quotes since I was a teenager has been this {I don’t know the source unfortunately!}

Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start now and make a brand new ending.

Regret takes up a lot of time and energy. At the end of the day, you can’t change what has happened. But you can work on what will happen from now.

What about you? Have you got any regrets in life?

Do share!!!

Inspired by the Daily Prompt.

Until next time,

Cheers!!!

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  • My Era
    7 September 2013 at 9:22 pm

    I totally agree with you PB. Each mistake in life is actually an important lesson learnt by example.
    Life is too short to fill it with regrets and decently long enough to create million beautiful moments 🙂
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  • My Era
    7 September 2013 at 9:22 pm

    I totally agree with you PB. Each mistake in life is actually an important lesson learnt by example.
    Life is too short to fill it with regrets and decently long enough to create million beautiful moments 🙂
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  • Vivienne
    9 September 2013 at 11:28 am

    Yeaaah, I Do hold a few regrets. But I’ll be getting over them, they’re not That bad 🙂 It’s hard to face forward and put those lost opportunities behind us, but one’s gotta do what one’s gotta do 🙂
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  • Vivienne
    9 September 2013 at 11:28 am

    Yeaaah, I Do hold a few regrets. But I’ll be getting over them, they’re not That bad 🙂 It’s hard to face forward and put those lost opportunities behind us, but one’s gotta do what one’s gotta do 🙂
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  • Scribby
    22 September 2013 at 7:55 pm

    I truly believe that if at all we are able to change something from our past, we should not because then we would be a different person with a different life, which is not we want because we don’t know what it would be 🙂 at least now we know our past and our present really well, don’t we? 🙂

    • Psych Babbler
      23 September 2013 at 8:47 pm

      Exactly…it’s our past that has made our present and our present will make our future…and of course, moulds us into who we are.

  • Scribby
    22 September 2013 at 7:55 pm

    I truly believe that if at all we are able to change something from our past, we should not because then we would be a different person with a different life, which is not we want because we don’t know what it would be 🙂 at least now we know our past and our present really well, don’t we? 🙂

    • Psych Babbler
      23 September 2013 at 8:47 pm

      Exactly…it’s our past that has made our present and our present will make our future…and of course, moulds us into who we are.