Facebook Fotos

I have noticed a new trend lately. On Facebook. [Which by the way, I still contemplate closing down every second day].

I noticed that almost everyone in a relationship needs to have themselves and their partner as their profile picture. I kid you not. More often than not it’s the women. But even my male friends sometimes do it. Why is that?

If you are in a committed relationship, do you suddenly lose yourself? Do you lose your identity? Why is there a need to have photos that show the two of you?

Or is it because that’s the way to show your partner you love them? Or on the other hand, if you are a person with just your photo on your profile, does it mean you don’t love your partner? Or are not committed enough?

Given that everyone I know seems to be getting engaged or married, this is a trend that is only increasing.

Am I the only one cynical enough to question this? Have you noticed any of this and what are your views on this?

Until next time,


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  • Smita
    16 June 2012 at 5:28 am

    Hmmmm I have seen ppl keeping their kids photo as their profile photo. Heck! even I love my son but I am me. This thing irritates me but theek each to its own 🙂

    • Smita
      18 June 2012 at 12:32 pm

      Cannot believe this. I am first here. Yay!

    • Psych Babblerâ„¢
      19 June 2012 at 3:20 am

      Oh yeah…I’m sure in a few years, I’ll be seeing that on my friends’ profiles…at the moment none of them have kids. I agree each to their own and I do know I am being verrrry judgemental here 🙂 But it still manages to annoy me. And it’s funny…a friend just made me rest my case…she got married last week and bang! This week, her profile pic is of her and her husband…and even cornier…he’s got the exact same profile pic!! Cover photos are different…I can understand that if you want to show off your relationship…but profile pic is supposed to be the person…not two people…

    • Psych Babblerâ„¢
      19 June 2012 at 5:38 am

      And yes, you’re first! 🙂

  • Ash
    16 June 2012 at 10:08 am

    I’ve noticed this too, and I think its all about exhibitionism… showing people you’re not single and how happy you are to be in a relationship… anyway check out my post on facebook’s dark side!

    • Psych Babblerâ„¢
      19 June 2012 at 10:20 am

      Loved your post on FB! I agree Ash that it’s all about exhibitionism and narcissism. I think there are studies about people getting depressed as a consequence of comparing to others on FB. And if not, I should probably consider doing some research on that! 😛 Welcome to this space… 🙂

  • Blahblaholic ♥ ©
    16 June 2012 at 10:13 am

    Hahaha, oh yes!
    I think you do not need photos, or ILY statuses or anything, if you love a person, why not just chill about it? :/
    But everyone does that now a days. Sigh

    @Tales of her and by her.
    @Teenage Babblings

    • Psych Babblerâ„¢
      19 June 2012 at 10:22 am

      I agree Blahblaholic….I never even updated my relationship status when I was in one. Didn’t mean I wasn’t committed to my partner at the time. But now, the minute someone is ‘in a relationship’ or ‘engaged’ or ‘married’ they have to announce it to the world via FB…sigh…

  • Lazy Pineapple
    16 June 2012 at 12:00 pm

    I have my hubby’s and my photo as my cover photo on FB. I put it there cause it is a nice snap and I like it. Period. Nothing more to it. Some people might just put it cause they want to show how much they love their partner/hubby/wife/GF/BF. I don’t feel there is anything wrong there. I don’t think you will lose your identity because of a snap…

    • Psych Babblerâ„¢
      20 June 2012 at 10:53 am

      LP…isn’t a cover photo different though? What’s your profile pic? The profile is of one person…yet, there are so many who the minute they get married, put up a pic of the two…almost as if it’s not acceptable to have just you on the profile pic anymore. I don’t know…

      I realise I am being very judgemental. It doesn’t mean people who don’t put pics like that are any less committed to their partners or love them any less.

  • R's Mom
    16 June 2012 at 12:50 pm

    and I have calvin as my facebook pic…I must be crazy eh?

    • Psych Babblerâ„¢
      20 June 2012 at 10:57 am

      Haha RM! 🙂 For a while I had my kitties as my profile pic. Now I have myself holding Pebbles (because Buttons won’t stay still in my arms) as my profile pic.

      And Calvin doesn’t make you crazy…he’s like the sanest kid ever! 😀

  • Ruchira
    16 June 2012 at 1:37 pm

    I read somewhere that FB gives you a twisted view of peoples lives because you know them simply through the pics or status updates and most of the time the pics are off course of them doing something fun … the article went on to say that FB can make you depressed because you tend to get jealous of the fun everyone else is having !
    And as for the couple photos – I agreee ! And wait till they have kids .. then the pics are of the couple holding a kid 😛

    • Psych Babblerâ„¢
      20 June 2012 at 11:21 am

      Oh I think I read something similar Ruchira…it has the tendency to make you depressed because you compare yourself to what you think other people are living and end up feeling miserable. I guess the pics with kids will be the next phase in my group of friends… sigh…I think by then I probably would have shut down my profile!!

  • Nisha
    16 June 2012 at 5:34 pm

    Aah, I’m guilty of doing this too! It’s just a matter of a good/bad picture for me. It could be with my niece or nephew too. I can’t say for others but if their reason is to show-off love, it’s highly ridiculous!

    • Psych Babblerâ„¢
      26 June 2012 at 10:47 am

      Fair enough Nisha…but I sometimes wonder, even with good pics, why don’t we just cut out the other person? But I’m sure there are some who put up the couple pics to show off…

  • Fiona
    16 June 2012 at 11:22 pm

    I cute Rish out of my current one and just kept me in it 😉

    And love the purple layout here!

    • Psych Babblerâ„¢
      26 June 2012 at 10:47 am

      Haha Fiona! I totally understand that! 😀

    • Psych Babblerâ„¢
      26 June 2012 at 10:48 am

      Oh and thanks re the layout! I wondered when people would notice and comment on it! 😀 My layouts tend to be purple or red…two favourite colours!

  • goingbeyondthepages
    17 June 2012 at 1:42 am

    Ofcourse I noticed it and I always wonder why? I was planning to do a post on it but you have already said what I wanted to 🙂

    • Psych Babblerâ„¢
      26 June 2012 at 11:15 am

      Welcome here! Is this a case of great minds think alike?? 😀

  • Chicky a.k.a. Kaddu
    17 June 2012 at 2:27 am

    Lol! I went off FB again earlier this week! Yeah I hv noticed those DPs. It’s pretty hard to miss them, isn’t it?

    • Psych Babblerâ„¢
      26 June 2012 at 11:16 am

      Ah Chicky…I am still contemplating whether or not to quit it. I do like putting up pics of Pebs and Buttons though…

      And yes, those pics are hard to miss because they will always be updated and will always be commented on or ‘liked’ and as a result hog your home page space!!!

  • Clarissa
    17 June 2012 at 4:41 am

    Yeah- I have noticed. It is a bit annoying. I never did it when I had a boyfriend. I even know a couple who SHARE a facebook profile.

    • Psych Babblerâ„¢
      26 June 2012 at 11:18 am

      OMG! Sharing profiles…that’d be the last straw for me…I think I would unfriend someone who did that. Same here Clarissa…never had my relationship status or photo with a partner when I was in a committed relationship. Doesn’t mean we were any less committed than those with a zillion pics…

  • pooja mahimkar
    17 June 2012 at 8:10 am

    well i think its just a “cool” thing people do to make other people jealous and all

    • Psych Babblerâ„¢
      26 June 2012 at 11:18 am

      I agree…it’s one of those things where people want others to perceive their lives and relationships in a certain way. OF course, the truth probably is not known to all…everyone just thinks things are hunky dory…

  • Bikramjit
    18 June 2012 at 1:11 pm

    he he he 🙂 mine is nothing like that its that of a LION 🙂 and has been since time immemorial 🙂

    fb is not my cup of tea


    • Psych Babblerâ„¢
      26 June 2012 at 11:19 am

      Lol…Sher of Punjab??? 😀 (Sorry…lame joke)

      FB is not my cup of tea either…I visit it rarely and most of the pics are of my cats and I’m just on the profile pic…

  • Gangubai
    19 June 2012 at 7:01 am

    Have been married for more than 6 yrs now.Never had hubby’s pic and mine together as a display pic when I was on FB (which was 2 yrs ago). Do I love him any less than others who put up ‘together’ pics? Noooooo!
    But I’m guilty of putting up ‘happy’ pics -one or 2 pics of us on a vacation, celeberating diwali at home etc. Had no plans of making anyone jealous, just wanted to share my happiness with the world.
    But FB reeks of exhibitionism, that’s why I’m off it for good.

    • Psych Babblerâ„¢
      26 June 2012 at 11:22 am

      FB = exhibitionism and narcissism. I’m guilty of putting up pics of the kitties and my cooking! 😛 And Gangu…you have put it so aptly…just because you didn’t put up pics of you and hubby doesn’t mean you guys were any less in love or any less committed to each other!

  • Maddie
    19 June 2012 at 8:30 am

    Oh FB is all about bragging and showing off, isn’t it? It is also a bit voyeuristic, don’t you think? peeping into other’s life..especially on your so called friends with whom you have had no contact for years. People might put up couple photos just because they like them and that’s it but there are others who want to show off and let the world know how awesome they are and what fun they are having and how boring everyone else is.
    Just a thought.

    • Psych Babblerâ„¢
      26 June 2012 at 11:24 am

      Yep Maddie…agree with all you say! It is voyeuristic. I know there are some people I have just because I’m curious to know what they have been up to. I did however cull a lot of people and have fewer than 100 (shock, horror!) on my list.