Soapbox Issues

No Girls Allowed…

Last week I came across this article in the newspaper. 16 year old Hannah Williams was banned from taking her girlfriend to the formal. Instead, she was asked to bring a male partner by her teacher. So apparently, according to Ivanhoe Girls’ Grammar School, it’s not okay to be gay. Or so it would appear from their stance.

The Principal however, said that the formal was not meant to discriminate against same-sex couples but was supposed to open the all girls’ school students to having a co-educational experience.

”I don’t think it’s appropriate they feel discriminated against, and I’m very upset they feel that,” she said. ”If we opened it up and said girls could bring another female they would all bring females; the policy is trying to create an event where boys are invited. We are a school that has an all-girls environment, and they are meant to invite guests, not partners.”

I don’t know about you but that makes no sense whatsoever in the form of a justification! Not partners but guests? And what every other girl bringing a boy is bringing a ‘guest’? Is the school actually checking to see whether they are a couple or not? And what planet is the principal living in when she says all girls would bring females if it was permitted? I have worked in schools and continue to work with teenagers and trust me, all girls or co-ed schools, teenage girls will go out with boys if they are attracted to the opposite sex. Especially in this day and age.

Apart from the above, another ‘justification’ by the principal was that age was an issue since Hannah’s partner is a Year 10 girl.

”It’s an event for year 11s and the student’s guest was in year 10.”

However, here’s where the justification fails. Hannah said her friends took younger males and she was the only one asked to provide the age of her date. I’ll go out on a limb and hypothesise that some girls may have brought Year 12 boys as well. Was that a problem for the school? I wonder.

The entire story reeks of just one thing: discrimination based on a person’s sexuality. The students don’t seem to have a problem with it. Why in the world are staff making it a problem? Usually you see young people being teased or bullied for their sexuality. However, it seems like Hannah’s classmates are accepting of her sexuality. But the staff obviously seem to have other views. It’s funny that even the girls’ families are accepting of their sexuality. Everyone seems fine with it. Every one but the school. And it’s not even a religious school! [Relgious schools use religion as their excuse…and while I don’t agree with it, it’s still more valid to them than what this principal is trying to say…if you get my drift!]

I remember reading something similar in the news last year. Another student. Another formal. Unfortunately, I can’t find the article any more.

It makes me wonder though — when will people be completely accepting of a person’s sexuality? Why are they so bothered by something that’s not going to hurt them? If it’s ‘fear’ of the unknown, isn’t the best way to get over that to face the fear? To get to know the unknown? Sigh.

I don’t understand it.

And I work with the way humans think and feel and behave.

Go figure.

Until next time,


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  • Titaxy
    15 November 2010 at 2:50 pm

    I would like to believe that people’s outlooks are changing…but I see that it’s a rather slow process. I fail to understand why the staff would be so overly concerned when everyone else seems to be fine with it. Why are they making this out to be a big issue, when it shouldn’t be?

  • levian
    16 November 2010 at 5:12 am

    some people just say one thing n do another. at some point, saying this will save them, then whoosh, a change of statement. i suppose they don’t have an actual stand in things. or an actual opinion they truly believe.

  • Makk
    16 November 2010 at 7:53 am

    Tell me one thing…
    leave alone accepting some one’s sexuality…how do people think that they should ponder upon anyone’s sexuality for that matter..None of any one’s business but the person him/her self.

    what say?

  • Psych Babblerâ„¢
    16 November 2010 at 10:51 am

    @ Titaxy: Exactly…when no one else in this matter is concerned, why are staff bothered??? Seems like people are going to take a long long time to change…

    @ Levian: True…I’m guessing you are talking in response to what the principal has said. It’s the way of the world, isn’t it? And welcome to this space!

    @ Makk: It’s not a question about pondering about someone’s sexuality…that is not required at all. It’s a point about being open-minded enough that a person’s sexuality is something innate and not making stupid ‘rules’ such as this school to discriminate against them.

  • Makk
    16 November 2010 at 4:17 pm

    I agree with you, but my point was some thing.

  • Makk
    13 December 2010 at 8:11 am

    Tell me one thing…
    leave alone accepting some one’s sexuality…how do people think that they should ponder upon anyone’s sexuality for that matter..None of any one’s business but the person him/her self.

    what say?