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What if
I was sexy like the girl next door
Would that make you want me more?
What if
I was as skinny as those models you see
Would that make you want to sleep with me?
What if
I was blonde and not a brunette
Would you spend more time with me and not forget?
What if
I had boobs that were sized a double D
Would you then take some moments to listen to me?
What if
I was not more intelligent than you
Would you be more secure and remain true?
What if
I let you earn more money than me
Would that pacify your masculinity?
What if
I was a woman who didn’t think for myself
Would you be happier to step in instead?
What if
I was coy, bashful and demure
Would that add to my allure?
What if
I was one to always give in to your needs
Would you then give up your secret deeds?
I am not any of this
And I never will be
I am proud of who I am
I am, but me
If you cannot handle that
It is of no worry
I am happy to live my life
Being independent and free
(c) Sanch Vee @ Sanch Writes (5 February 2010)
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Annyesha
8 February 2010 at 8:35 pmGood one.. every woman can relate to this one 🙂 thanks for making us realise our pride and self respect.. Great.. Keep it up.
Madhu | INDImag.com
8 February 2010 at 9:08 pmThat was a good one ; loved the attitude. Read somewhere and has lingered on ‘What others think of you id none of your business’ ..
Harsha
9 February 2010 at 2:58 amnice post, I like the way you end it, really nice
theschmuck
9 February 2010 at 6:14 amWow,delightful!
theschmuck
9 February 2010 at 6:14 amwow,delightful!me LIKEY
Magali
9 February 2010 at 6:16 amWow! I really, really loved it. Reminds me of myself because other than skinny, I too am none of those & proud. Generally don’t like reading poems but am soooooooo glad I read this one.
Archana
9 February 2010 at 8:44 amIt was a pleasure reading this!!!
:~)
Psych Babbler
9 February 2010 at 10:39 amGreat minds think alike?? 🙂 Well, so far I haven’t fallen for someone like I presented in the poem….thank god! :p
Psych Babbler
9 February 2010 at 10:40 amWelcome Murali! And thanks for the lovely comments on the post and blog. And I think we all go through that battle…when does one cross the line from self-love to narcissism?
Psych Babbler
9 February 2010 at 10:41 amThanks Makk….new job going well so far…boring because I haven’t taken on clients yet…
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9 February 2010 at 10:43 amWelcome Swayambhu! Thanks! Well, I do know not all men are like this…this is to portray the ones that are. I could have done a poem the other way around but it would have been harder (what with me being a woman and all…) but I could have probably done something like:
What if
I wasn’t rich
Would you still want to get hitched? :p
How’s that for men??? =D
Psych Babbler
9 February 2010 at 10:43 amThanks Shruti!
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9 February 2010 at 10:43 amThanks heaps! =)
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9 February 2010 at 10:44 amWelcome Tanmaya! And thank you….yes, I think most of us try and change something or the other for a partner —- but it shouldn’t have to do with one’s whole self or physical attributes
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9 February 2010 at 10:56 amWelcome aativas and thanks for the lovely comment!
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9 February 2010 at 10:57 amWelcome Mahesh….and I’m humbled by your comment…thank you! =)
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9 February 2010 at 11:18 amThank you Dew! =)
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9 February 2010 at 11:18 amWelcome Choco! And thanks for the lovely comment!! =)
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9 February 2010 at 11:18 amThanks Solilo =)
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9 February 2010 at 11:19 amWelcome Annyesha! Thanks for the lovely comment… =)
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9 February 2010 at 11:19 amLol…loved the quote!!! It’s going on my favourite quotes list! And thanks for the compliment… =)
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9 February 2010 at 11:20 amWelcome TheSchmuck! And thanks =)
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9 February 2010 at 11:21 amGlad you loved it and glad you are not someone to change your identity for others!!! =)
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9 February 2010 at 11:21 amWelcome Archana! And thank you =)
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9 February 2010 at 11:23 amThanks Harsha! =)
Avada Kedavra
9 February 2010 at 10:07 pmVery true. I could relate to this poem 🙂
Psych Babbler
10 February 2010 at 12:18 pm=) Glad you could relate…and hope it ended positively for you
Blabberblah
10 February 2010 at 2:54 pm“What if
I was one to always give in to your needs
Would you then give up your secret deeds?”
Loved those lines. I think this is a post every girl should read.
Raksha Raman
11 February 2010 at 5:15 amTotally Awesome! Wondering how I missed your post on BAT list!! May be I overlooked! Glad I did not miss reading this one before voting! I’d have regretted otherwise!
blommer22
11 February 2010 at 5:45 amawh, you beat all those shallow guy around. did a great job. love it a lot.
Comfortablynam
11 February 2010 at 6:20 amHow I wish every women/girl could say this..could stand for themselves. How I wish we were not forever trying to mold ourselves into someone else’s idea of beauty. We are all beautiful just the way we are. We just need to find the confidence and stand for that..
Very well written PB. Hats off to you
Psych Babbler
12 February 2010 at 12:10 pmThanks Blabberblah! And I’m honoured that you think it’s a post every girl should read…. =)
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12 February 2010 at 12:11 pmWow…thank you Raksha for your lovely comment! =)
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12 February 2010 at 12:11 pmHehe… =) Thank you!!!
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12 February 2010 at 12:12 pmThanks Comfy….I wish every woman/girl could say this as well. I’ve seen so many clients that do otherwise though and it’s sad because they think that’s the only way of winning someone’s love….
ani_aset
20 February 2010 at 5:03 amthank you 🙂 nicely done
BlueMist
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amnice. It is required to love ourselves before we could think of loving someone else.
Titaxy
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amnice!!!
first?
Karthik
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amExcellent! Attitude matters a lot. And you couldn’t have made your point better than this.
Nu
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amThat’s something ! I liked the frank attitude in the words in the last…I’m with you on this…Makes me humm the song ‘WORDS’… ‘take me as I’m and I would give it all I would sacrifice….’
Good One PB 🙂
Psych Babbler
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amYep…it’s so important isn’t it?? 🙂
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16 September 2010 at 2:04 amThanks! 🙂 And no…not first unfortunately…Misty beat you by about 10 mins!
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16 September 2010 at 2:04 amThanks Karthik =)
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16 September 2010 at 2:04 amThanks Nu…I’m still trying to figure out the tune of the song you have mentioned….
perplexed
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amNice! I wonder how many girls can actually say this though!
Psych Babbler
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amThanks…and yeah…I wonder too…it’d be nice if something like this was an anthem for women…There’s actually a great song by Vanessa Amorossi ‘Who I am’ which is great….
tavishchadha
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amKudos to your attitude my friend… brilliant one… loved it totally!!
Cheers!
Tavish
Latest Blog Post: What if…
Aneet
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amTo answer your questions:
yes
no
no
mmmm…no
wha…??
my my!
Oh fudge!
Guria
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amAwesome entry for BAT.. this poem does true justice to the topic! It’s a beautiful piece of thought and poetry!
DesiNinja
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amlaws of attraction goes beyond physical and/or economic attributes. as you grow old u love ur partner as whoever s/he is. if the same things which u used to find attractive before now seems like a pain in the a$$ then it wasn’t ‘love’ in the first place.
btw saying all that- my last post was on the science behind ‘what r we looking for in our partner’… and i think i said something very diff thr 😉
Varsh
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amNice poem….the song Nu mentioned was not ‘Words’…it was ‘Evrything I do, I do it for you’ by Bryan Adams…
And yes…its tough to love yourselves first…only then you can expect others to feel the same for you 🙂
Mahmud faisal
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amI am not any of this
And I never will be
I am proud of who I am…………………..
I say the same! 🙂 Nice expressions. hope no problems in life is meant in the poem 🙂
shilpagarg
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amWonderful thoughts beautifully expressed! Accept me not only for who I am but also for who I’m not… I agree!
Cheers 🙂
Just another life
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amBe bindass! tahtz the attitude for the day / life
Just Another Life
Varun Reddy
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amKudos…
mahmudfaisal
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amI am not any of this
And I never will be
I am proud of who I am
I just loved the lines.. this is really a fact. we can slightly change us being motivated or impressed to some extent. but nothing more than this!
take care. liked the poem 🙂
Sid
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amThis is nice…but seriously u sud b not blonde…. no one remembers blondes…:P
Rashi
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amSo damn true! I agree. I wish I could change myself for that person but I would be giving up so much of myself that I couldn’t love me. And what about the things I cant change…
Love the post! 🙂
Sureindran
16 September 2010 at 2:04 ama good ending, i like that message you passed via this post.
bluntedges
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amneat what ifs those! 🙂
shahid
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amBe yourself….the one who will listen to you now will always listen to you
Psych Babbler
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amThanks Tavish! 🙂
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16 September 2010 at 2:04 amLol…
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16 September 2010 at 2:04 amHehe…fair enough…I agree that attraction isn’t solely physical….but I also know there are some people out there that believe it to be so….it was a light-hearted take on things anyway
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16 September 2010 at 2:04 amThanks Mahmud…and no…honestly no problems from my own personal life are mentioned here. It’s just me being creative… 🙂
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16 September 2010 at 2:04 amHehe…yep! And welcome to my blog! 🙂
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16 September 2010 at 2:04 amI agree…compromise is good and so is changing a few certain things if the relationship is absolutely not working but there is no need to change anything else! =) Thanks for the lovely comment…
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16 September 2010 at 2:04 amHehe…but don’t they say that blondes have more fun?? 😉
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16 September 2010 at 2:04 amWelcome Rashi! And thanks for the lovely comment. I reckon that someone you love should love you for who you are…and the way you are…I can understand certain behaviours may need change every now and then in all of us…but there’s so many things that we shouldn’t compromise on just to please the other person (intelligence, weight etc…)
Psych Babbler
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amHehe…thanks! =)
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16 September 2010 at 2:04 amYou hit the nail on the head there Shahid! And unless we love ourselves the way we are, we cannot expect another person to love us that way….
Anilmenon
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amWhats done , shall remain so
What we want may change, so……
While our wishes unfulfilled, remain so
Our searches continue, for…. its so.
Gyanban
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amYou and I think quite alike…..but i’d written a what if poem about 2 years back..
http://bit.ly/9cLf5c .. i like poems which are simple and yet convey a strong emotion…and yours just fits the bill.Good stuff
Psych Babbler
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amWelcome Anil! And what you’ve said — so true!!! =)
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16 September 2010 at 2:04 amYou are right…we do think alike! And thanks for the lovely compliment! =)
KT
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amVery nice post….Every person is unique and being ourselves no matter what others feel should be the mantra….’I love myself’ is the key for happiness….I liked your posts and your style of writing :)….am following you 🙂
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Psych Babbler
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amWelcome KT! Thanks for the lovely compliment. =) And yes, we are all unique individuals and if our partners (men and women) cannot take us for who we are and think we should be like actors/models/other people they know…it’s just not worth it!
meenakshinair
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amnice post.. reminds me of the mail I sent my guy when I got committed to him.
the questions and their implications well coordinated.
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16 September 2010 at 2:04 amWelcome Meenakshi! Hehe…glad you could relate to the post in a way =) Thanks for the lovely comment…
chetan
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amat the end you are right
let them go to hell, i am what i am
sarosena
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amHell yea. Your post gave me a headrush!
Nu
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amare this song is by Boyzone…”WORDS and words are all I have to take your heart away…”
Psych Babbler
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amThanks Chetan! =)
Nethra
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amI wanted to write the same but ended up writing something else…i meant the plot. Its very nice, but we girls always fall the wrong ones, don’t we?
Murali
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amaah yes, nice post……….self-love vs egotism…….the eternal war in my own personal battlefields….!
on another note,
nice blog you’ve got going!
Makk
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amthe way asked in first few lines…….what if its not the way it is.?
nice post psych. I hope you are doing well along with your new job.
ahh ….have i hit a beating pulse …???
🙂
Keep smiling.
swayambhumukherjee
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amnice!! wouldn’t agree with some of the feelings though…..most men are not so horrible 😉
shruti_15
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amI loved this!! Superb entry for BAT!
dilontherocks
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amWow..Just awesome..wonderful thought. Related very aptly to the topic..
Tanmaya Acharya
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amnice piece of poetry… nice strong mesage.. at one point or the other in their lives many girls think this way … i agree with your words… best of luck with your entry…
aativas
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amI liked this attitude.. yes, for women unfortunately ‘anatomy is destiny’ but people like us need to change this. ..and your poem is very inspiring, direct, and ruthless in a way which I like. One has to deal with facts of life rather ruthlessly. 🙂
mahesh kalaal
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amWowwwww………
Marvel ….
loved the objectivity and rationality ….
the way you spilled the beans of social taboos and male hypocrisy is awesome …..
This post is a contender for my voting …..
Dew
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amI like the lines above..it’s painfully true…! Thanks PB…it’s really beautiful…a sense of self realization that whoever e are..whatever we are…we are the best as selves…! Let us not lose ourselves ONLY to keep oders happy
Choco
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amWow. First time here and loved the way you manage to pen your thoughts.
Loved this post! 🙂
Solilo
16 September 2010 at 2:04 amWell written, PB!
And coming from you, it seems real because I know you as a confident woman from your blog posts. Always a thumbs up for strong, independent, confident woman.
Psych Babbler
16 September 2010 at 2:04 am=) Glad you could relate…and hope it ended positively for you
umapoems
16 October 2010 at 2:34 pmNice..A woman is still a woman if she has or not the qualities you stated above …kudos!
Femba Girl
18 October 2010 at 6:49 pmOh I loved this! Excellent composition!
Psych Babbler™
16 November 2010 at 11:35 am@ Ums: Thanks! 🙂
@ Femba Girl: Hehe…thanks! 🙂
Psych Babbler
13 December 2010 at 8:12 am=) Glad you could relate…and hope it ended positively for you
umapoems
13 December 2010 at 8:12 amNice..A woman is still a woman if she has or not the qualities you stated above …kudos!
Contactcorpus
28 November 2011 at 9:21 amgood one
Psych Babbler
30 November 2011 at 6:21 amWelcome here Contactcorpus…thanks for the comment! 🙂