Soapbox Issues

Hugs…are bad…

Earlier this week, the news about a school in South Australia banning hugging between students of different sexes made headlines here. Yes, hugging. Between boys and girls aged 11 and 12. Because apparently, it sets a bad example for the younger children in the primary school.

Does that mean not touching is a good example?

Does that mean young kids are supposed to view hugging as ‘bad’? (Mind you, these same young children are probably exposed to a whole lot more on the telly)

What is wrong with hugging any way? It’s not something that takes place only between couples and therefore, the school should actually be doing it’s best to normalise it. Because that’s what it is. A normal sign of affection for someone you care about. Friend. Family. Partner. Or are they saying that boys and girls cannot be friends? (Getting bad flashbacks to my Year 6 teacher who believed boys and girls should not be friends…)

Instead of wasting time enforcing rules such as this, they need to educate students at an earlier age about sex. Yes, there are a number of 11 and 12 year olds out there engaging in sexual activities. Wouldn’t any parent prefer their child hugging a member of the opposite sex than engaging in other sexualised behaviours in the privacy of toilets?? Seriously.

Society is seriously fucked up. Children are getting mixed messages. On the one hand, television portrays sex everyday (even during prime time telly) and on the other hand, you have schools banning something as innocent as hugging. So are they going to learn it’s okay to be nude and the only way you are going to be liked is if you engage in sexual behaviours whereas hugging is not okay?

I don’t know.

I’m confused.

Until next time,


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  • Titaxy
    24 October 2009 at 11:28 pm

    and they are doing this in Aus?…really? oh man…seriously, where are we headed?

  • Psych Babbler
    25 October 2009 at 12:14 am

    @ Titaxy: Yep, one of the schools here is doing this. I just hope this doesn’t catch on and we become a regressive and prudish society like back in the ancient times.

  • Nu
    25 October 2009 at 3:07 am

    And we keep on sending hugs to each other online..I wonder if this ‘double-minded’ society police is watching us in this blog space…hhahaha… we will also land up in jail for doing this HUG crimes so often 🙂

  • Solilo
    25 October 2009 at 3:54 am

    Oh! so now it is going back to your roots time?

  • Pesto Sauce
    25 October 2009 at 4:25 am

    This made news in India too

    Yes kids need to be taught where to draw the line. In Delhi too teenagers engage in all nonsense stuff very soon

  • soin
    25 October 2009 at 7:03 am

    and i though we indians are quite backward in this stuff..@pesto..what do u mean nonsense sex and stuff is bad at teenage

  • Archana
    25 October 2009 at 7:19 am

    Dumb. Dumb. Dumb. I can’t believe they want to ban a hug? That’s so ridiculous, because that’s one the sweetest and most platonic forms of physical affection. And yes, kids do grow up around too many mixed signals these days, it’s going to be a roller coaster ride for the future parents.

  • G
    25 October 2009 at 9:41 am

    And I thought Aus was a progressive thinking country compared to ours. Uff!

  • Sidthegnomenator
    25 October 2009 at 10:00 am

    I have to admit that I don’t understand. Why is hugging setting a bad example?

    Honestly, I’m confused.

  • Pheebs
    26 October 2009 at 7:13 am

    What’s next? banning eye contact?

  • Psych Babbler
    26 October 2009 at 9:52 am

    @ Nu: Lol! Well, we are of the same sex so we are not setting a bad example. It’s only if we were of the opposite sex 😛

    @ Solilo: Sigh…certainly feels like it!

    @ Pesto: Wow! Didn’t realise it made news there. I’m all for educating kids about safe sex but hugging is one of the most innocent things and by banning it they are probably sending the wrong message…

    @ Soin: I thought so too. I went to a school where there were some teachers that frowned upon boys and girls talking or playing cricket together…hopefully Aus doesn’t regress all the way and people realise this is insane!

    @ Archana: Tell me about it. I feel for some parents…

    @ G: That’s what I thought!! :S

    @ Sid: They haven’t really explained that…who the hell knows???

    @ Pheebs: Lol…maybe. Maybe.

  • Joel
    26 October 2009 at 10:41 am

    ouch !! >:D< >😀< >😀< >😀< >😀< >😀< >😀< >😀< >😀< >😀< >😀< >😀< >😀< >😀< >😀< >😀< >:D<

  • Psych Babbler
    26 October 2009 at 10:52 am

    @ Joel: Hehe…now that would be setting a bad example! 😛 Ridiculous isn’t it? I had flashbacks to some of our teachers….

  • ani_aset
    27 October 2009 at 11:10 am

    ok ok you love comments 😀
    I love hugs :D,.. and i dont like this whole idea of banning hugging 🙁

  • Richa
    29 October 2009 at 12:57 am hugging is allowed in same sex? So by their own logic (=> hugging encourages sexual behavior), aren’t they encouraging homosexuality? Ha! I found the silver lining… 🙂

  • Psych Babbler
    2 November 2009 at 10:11 am

    @ Ani: Yeah I agree. I haven’t been a big fan of hugs until a few years ago. Something to do with my personal space…but hugging is just a way of showing affection and it’s stupid to ban it!

    @ Richa: Lol!!!