Life lessons

Dear Dad,

25 years as your daughter has taught me a lot.

We may not have spoken much as I was growing up…apart from stuff about cricket and football. We did not agree on cricket — I supported the Aussies while you went for India.

We had our disagreements on just how much effort I put into my studies at school. Through my teenage years, I got angry with you more than once. I thought you did not understand my points of view…whether it was about studies or why I did badly in maths. I hated the times I had to do maths with you…yes, I sucked at it and that frustrated you. I have hated what I term as you being a ‘neat-freak’. I have wondered why we did not get along well as I grew up.

You were the first to support my decision to take up Arts after Year 10 (despite everyone else thinking I should follow in your footsteps).
You were the first to suggest and support the choice of college
You have worked weird hours and in weird places to support our family
You put up with your mother (as we all have) and have tried to be as diplomatic as possible
You supported my decision to come to Australia to study…both emotionally and monetarily
You have been supportive ever since

As the years go on, I realise I am becoming a lot more like you. I hold similar values in terms of honesty, being straightforward, working hard and not kissing arse! I am much neater than I was. And funnily enough, although I didn’t follow you exactly in terms of a profession, I have ended up in the healthcare field.

So why am I writing this today?

Well, given that it’s father’s day here, I thought I’d take this opportunity to share.

So dad, despite our ups and downs over the past 25 years, I am proud to be your daughter (and mum’s) Despite my complaints that you favoured my sister, I know better now. I am an adult and I know how much you have done for us. For our family.

So thank you. For everything.

I love you and here’s wishing you a Happy Father’s Day.

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  • Nu
    6 September 2009 at 2:30 am

    Truly written ! Does uncle read your blog ?

  • Shankar
    6 September 2009 at 4:04 am

    A very nice post..Its quite natural that we have difference of opinion with dad during our teen age… Even we can say dad is the biggest enemy during our teenage…. But as we grow up we understand how much they care for us.. nice one psych..

  • Sidthegnomenator
    6 September 2009 at 2:10 pm

    That’s so lovely. Not being in Australia anymore, I had forgotten it was Father’s Day there. It is the second since my Daddy passed away – I shall ring a sibling or two to see how they are going.


  • susheela (mum)
    6 September 2009 at 2:52 pm

    Well written…..Read it to dad and he was very touched and felt u have matured so much……Luv u

  • Archana
    6 September 2009 at 4:02 pm

    Aww how sweet. 🙂 You should print this out and put in into a Father’s Day Card for him, I’m sure he’s love it!

  • Titaxy
    6 September 2009 at 11:45 pm

    very nice post, Psych…happy father’s day !

  • Smita
    7 September 2009 at 4:04 am

    Thats such a nice post post!!! We all love our parents but hardly realize & express it because it is a taken for granted feeling!!!

    Hope u make ur dad read this!!!

  • Solilo
    7 September 2009 at 4:51 am

    That is just beautiful! I was misty eyed reading it.

  • Psych Babbler
    7 September 2009 at 8:15 am

    @ Nu: Thanks. No my dad doesn’t read my blog but my mum does and she apparently read it to him.

    @ Shankar: Thanks!

    @ Sid: Sorry to hear that your dad passed away a couple of years ago. By the way, ever wondered why we celebrate Father’s Day in Sep??

    @ Mum: Welcome to my blog! And thanks for your first comment… 🙂 Luv you! By the way, just so you know, there was a post about you a while ago…

    @ Archana: Hehe…I think it’s easier this way than face to face…

    @ Titaxy: Thanks!

    @ Smita: We do take it for granted, don’t we? Oh and my mum read it to him…

    @ Solilo: Aww…thanks…:)

  • sonu
    7 September 2009 at 12:33 pm

    hmmmm….so mum gets an entry n so does dad but wat abt poor me 🙁

  • Nu
    7 September 2009 at 2:52 pm

    Hey, I’m so glad that your mum reads your blog.. And I’m sure uncle must be really happy to hear this post 🙂

  • LadyinRed
    8 September 2009 at 9:30 am

    that is so sweet… i have a post like this sitting on my draft folder, all these months and i still can’t finish it… your post makes me eager to do so :)…

  • Psych Babbler
    8 September 2009 at 9:51 am

    @ Sonu: In due time…expect one 🙂 Is there a sister’s day???

    @ Nu: I think he was touched… 🙂

    @ LadyinRed: Thanks…yeah I keep thinking of stuff like this and figured father’s day was a good chance…

  • ani_aset
    8 September 2009 at 12:43 pm

    this is nice PB 🙂

  • The Ketchup Girl
    15 September 2009 at 10:28 am

    such a warm fuzzy post! resonated with me at my points…